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Hi everyone,

New to this whole question thing, so please bear with me. My ex and I broke up two weeks ago. About three days after the breakup, I made the mistake of begging pleading, etc. She said some nasty things to me because of me smothering her, etc. She stated I would have to change. To stop pressuring her to get back together. To stop being the drunk I used to be. To stop being clingy and to stop having anxiety attacks. Well, I started to go no contact so I could give her space and work on myself. I got on anxiety meds, I've been sober two weeks. During my no contact, she comes over to my apt. She says she loves me. We cuddle. We kiss. She stays the night (no sex). She has done this the last week. But when I talk about getting back together, she freaks out. Yelling she is single and is free and can do whatever she wants. I know she is talking to other guys, and most of them just want to sleep with her. She says she knows that's all they want, but they are just "pawns" and she is the "queen". And I need to work on being the "king", but I need to stop with my B. S. and start improving. Also I need to stop with the boyfriend stuff because "We are not dating and I am not your girlfriend" says her. This is right after we went shopping together and I dropped a couple hundred on her for her birthday. I'm a nice guy, so I get it I probably did mess up a lot in here... what do you all think? Should I keep trying, Or is she lying saying she loves me and wants us together just not right now. Is that even real: saying i love you but can't be with you now?

I keep getting guys saying they tapped that and they banged that in person and over text I don't know how they get my number unless through another person that has my number, I just don't know what to do, she is my first girlfriend and i admitted I was a virgin to her and I thought we were both the same because she told me she was a virgin too and that she wanted to wait until marriage to have sex, but that we may have it before if she feels comfortable enough, now all this comes out and my girlfriend said she did videos and admitted it and she's crying to me everyday saying how sorry she is, I feel insecure now about this whole thing and I just don't know what to do, she's told me that she's done these videos and that she's probably had sex with 20 guys and that she isn't really a virgin, I'm honestly really hurt and frustrated but I'm also angry and embarrassed that I have all these dudes saying they banged her and belittling me, I just don't know what to do like I said she is my first girlfriend and I really love her, I didn't expect my first relationship to be this stressful, her friends are pressuring me too to forgive her and to stop being a jerk about it and being a loser and to man up and accept it, I just don't know what to do which is why I want some opinions and help from you all cause I know how much experience a lot of people have here; what do I do?