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He and his ex were best friends for a few years, dated for a few years, and then fizzled out because of the long distance and a few other fights. But it was starting to get better right before he broke up with her (half to date me, half because it was a hard relationship). Important note: he /cheated on her/ with me for a day or two and then broke up with her. She went back and forth between telling him "you're awful" and "you're still my best friend" in the months following the breakup (when I was dating him). He's seen her a few times since to hang out together. She started dating around again. They're trying to be friends because they were so close for so long and she's got a rough situation right now. They're still texting. And I'm not expecting him to be completely over her just yet because their breakup as 6 months ago, but I'm expecting him to be decent to me and not make me feel like he's still after her. He's /expressed/ no interest in being with her again. But he texts her despite knowing how nervous it makes me. I asked if I could read the texts once and he was offended that I didn't trust him. I thought a fair compromise would be I won't get upset if he talks to her as long as there's transparency. He thought this was still a huge violation of trust. I understand the desire to remain friends because they were there for each other during the worst parts of their lives, but should I be worried that he doesn't want me to read the texts? Or is he justified in saying it's a violation of trust?

I want to snoop through his phone but that's nearly impossible to get away with. Should I try to do it anyway? I fear if I asked him for it he'd delete things first (I know I clearly don't trust him or her here but i would like to have reason to trust him and feel like seeing they're talking harmlessly would help). He'd be very upset if he knew I did that.

My ex and I broke up a while ago because of his drug habits, and it's been hard to move on. Since then, I've been going out and meeting new people, leading to new crushes.

Guy #1: we've met up twice, the first time being an introduction by a mutual friend. He was sweet off the bat, and I was horrifyingly nervous around him. Second time we hung out was at a festival; he had my number and called, saying he wanted to hang out. He basically called/texted me until I got there, asking me "where are you? Are you here yet?" And other similar things. When we met up he seemed more animated and comfortable, often hovering around me and trying to involve me with his friends. The friend who introduced us says he may be taken.

Guy #2: we went to school together for 5yrs. He's a great guy, and I have liked him in previous years. Only recently. We started talking and hanging out. I invited him to my bonfire tomorrow and he said he'd come, asked if I ever tried Molly, and said he'd bring me some to try--for just me and him before the party, meaning he wants to hang out. I flirted more openly with him and said he was cute and suddenly he started talking more and using emojis a lot.

Guy #3: he's a drummer for a local band who invited me to one of his shows and to a party via facebook. When he first saw me arrive he came straight up to me and introduced himself and said he was glad that I could make it. after the show he invited me to another show and said he drive me there and back. Later he randomly asked how old I was;that's when I told him about my birthday party tomorrow he said he would come.

Then of course is my ex. We've been through a lot together together for two years, and even now we are still some of the closest of friends. He says it's not my fault we broke up, but his, and that I made him as happy as I possibly could have. Just recently, we actually had sex, and we acted as if we were still a couple.

So what do I do?