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I have been seeing a friend with benefits for about 7 months now but I can’t tell if he actually likes more than he’s admitting. When we have sex he’s always saying how sexy I am during sex and he gives me hickies on my back that hurt for a week. I always get the feeling he wants to kiss me but he doesn’t. Also one time I told him he was the second guy I’ve been with and he asked if I was seeing someone else and I said I was but that I’m not anymore. He said good because he knew I was seeing someone else and was going to end it because of that! Like what? We are only friends with benefits so I’m confused. And one time when we were having sex he said you only having sex with me right? I said yes! But it’s so many mixed signals. We have never even been on a date or anything also. Do you think he has feelings?

If you knew that your close female friend was traumatized sexually and that she was scared about having her first consensual time with a romantic partner because its too much stress to add the romantic element on top of the ptsd while naked and vulnerable and scared as fuck.. would you be willing to walk her through it and be there for her emotionally more than anything during, before, and after fucking her? Would you do it if you saw her from a purely platonic perspective, or would you have to have an element of romantic leaning type feelings for her? Because that's what I'm going through right now. And I want to make sure I'm not confused. Because he said that he's attracted to me but that he's not looking for a relationship right now and we don't have romantic chemistry. But then he also checks up on me constantly and we talk every day and he's been there for me through an abusive partner and he's been there for me during everything regarding my obtain spazzing out about the rape. When we first met we hooked up but i was nervous cuz it was going to be my first time and he stopped immediately and instead went down on me a little before kissing me and snuggling me a bit and turning on the tv and didn't try anything with me the rest of the night. So I'm just wondering if every guy would be willing to fuck his close girl friend and be there for her in such an observational, overly invested, extremely intimate, defenseless type of way that is vulnerable as fuck a thousand times more vulnerable than just basic animalistic sex. Could you partake in something that severe without having interest in the girl? Is it safe to say it is platonic as hell, or should I be concerned that he might have some level of hidden genuine interest in me of a romantic type leaning form? Thoughts? Please take the poll and explain your answer below. Thank you.

So I’ve been talking to this guy for the past month. We hang out every single day, spend the night at each other’s places sometimes, we’ve hooked up like 5 times.

Yesterday morning he called me and said he wanted to spend the day together, so we had a breakfast date, jammed in his car, went back to his place, and had some BOMB sex. I had to go to work at 2:30 but he reminded me that we were hanging out at 8 and kissed me goodbye.

Fast forward to 8. I get there, handle of Bacardi, ready to drink for the first time in ages. Long story short, got a little too drunk, to the point where he didn’t think I could drive— I honestly could’ve. I had to be home by 1 because curfew. He made his best friend drive my car and follow me and him in his car to my house.

I’m not sure how this conversation started but during the car ride he told me he didn’t care if I died, and just that he didn’t want me to get pulled over. First of all, what the fuck? I asked him if he meant that, and he said said it again. “I don’t care if you die, I don’t care if anyone dies.” Like who fucking says that? To be fair he did tell me he was feeling really depressed, I asked him what I could do to help him, he said to wait a day and he’ll be fine.

Anyways, after asking him again like what the fuck dude, he said “no, I’d care if you died.” He then proceeded to tell me he has “a lot of love for me.” I feel like he was just telling me things I wanted to hear.

One more thing. We were discussing tinder earlier in the day, and he said he wasn’t about that Tinder life, and I agreed, which is true for me, I don’t have the app. When he let me pick the song on the ride home, he handed me his phone, and Tinder was one of the recommended apps from the drop down list. Also he was talking to some girl named Natalie on there?

Am I overthinking this? Am I overreacting?
To be honest I’m still a little drunk and just overall confused. I’m sure we’ll hang out tonight, but I’m tired of these mixed signals.