Search Results: summer fling

Insight in behavior of an "ex-boyfriend"

Hi guys, I would really appreciate some insight into a situation of mine... I was at a party the other night, and the guy I've dated over the summer was there with his new fling (the second one after me, he left me for...

Anonymous

(36-45)

Relationships

Talking with a (My?) guy?

So recently I've actually been doing a lot of thinking. I really really like this guy, We dated and then broke up. It was kinda a summer fling. So at the end of summer he said that he didn't do long distances, which is...

Anonymous

(30-35)

Dating

Need a guy's translation to help me find closure. I've been a workaholic, barely eating or sleeping.

Over a LA summer party, I met a guy. He was nice and helped take care my drunk friend. We hooked up, but I was tense and he asked if it was my first time. I said kinda because with my last boyfriend, it was too...

daydreamer1234

Xper 4 Age: 34

Dating

He likes me, but doesn't want to be with me or date me..

He's 18, I'm 20. We had a fling that lasted the whole summer, and after that things got awkward because he wanted to be with his friends more. We only saw each other once in about two weeks, so it's not like I was...

Anonymous

(30-35)

Dating

Was it just a one night stand?

I've been flirting with this guy during the summer, and have been kissing at parties where we've both been. Finally I went to visit him Tuesday until Wednesday. We ended up sleeping together and cuddling and kissing etc.....

Anonymous

(36-45)

Relationships

Should I give regretful long distance, 3 year girlfriend second chance after summer 'fling'?

Long story short: For 3 years, I've been in a an awesome, deep, really loving relationship w a beautiful, smart, kind girl from a nearby city. She even lived with me for about 3 months before she went abroad to work for...

Anonymous

(36-45)

Other

Any good ideas of an escape plan just in case?

so me and this guy has a fling during the summer before school started and a week before I met my current boyfriend and before school started he told me he liked me and so a week into school I told him that I liked him...

Anonymous

(30-35)

Flirting

He pushes me away and then wants me around...

This guy and I had a brief fling that started over the summer...we dated now and then, but we're both super busy so it wasn't regular. We emailed when I was away traveling. He would pay for drinks. We never slept...

ErroWorld

Xper 6 Age: 35

Dating

All else equal, is a girl who puts out more desirable?

v0nDutch

Xper 5 Age: 39

Assume Girl A & B are twins. They are both stunningly beautiful, not stupid, not bitchy, charming, flirty, fun, etc. They have both dated and had sex with one guy, and they were both

Assume Girl A & B are twins. They are both stunningly beautiful, not stupid, not bitchy, charming, flirty, fun, etc. They have both dated and had sex with one guy, and they were both madly in love, but now they're both over it. Now . . .

Girl A has since coped by not placing much weight on sex. She waited 3 months before having sex in an attempt to weed out guys who just wanted to get in her pants, but she saw how badly that failed. Now, if she's just not interested in a guy, she stops talking to him, and if he doesn't get the point, she spells it out clearly for him. Yet, if she's really interested in and attracted to a guy, she's not afraid to take things sexual if he feels ready and comfortable enough to go there too.

Girl B coped a little differently. After her ex broke her heart, and she got hurt, she realized that 3 months before sex is way too soon. Instead, she now has a firm one year rule. No sex until one year of dating. Even after one year has passed, unless she's convinced that the guy genuinely loves her, cares about her, want to eventually marry her, and would make a great husband and father, she won't feel comfortable or ready to have sex. Plus, sex has to be very special. She's always had a fantasy to have sex for the first time when its freshly snowing. The first snow to hit the ground would be symbolic of their first time being intimate, and it would be a moment they would both remember.

My question is two-fold, because I've been reading and hearing a lot lately from men:

1. Given the choice to start a relationship with both (as in, not just for the sex, but because you would want to be with the girl long-term, not necessarily till death do you part, but not some quick summer fling thing), which one would you prefer?

2. If you prefer one girl over the other (i.e., Girl A over Girl B, or Girl B over Girl A), is the girl you didn't pick pretty much out of the picture because you see her so negatively so as to render her undatable? (i.e., not worth the time or energy to deal with the issues she has with sex, or no way I would ever date someone who was so easy or would have sex so soon).

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Girls, if you argue/get aggravated with an ex, does that mean you still care?

There was a girl who had us introduced summer of 2011. This was my first descent fling of a relationship. She was young, she was 18 then and we dated for a few months. However, in October, she really shafted me for a guy...

coleyc9148

Xper 6 Age: 37

Flirting

GUYS: did I lead him on? why are they acting weird?

Okay there's 2 guys involved in this question. Lets call them #1 and #2. Back a couple months ago I had a bit of a fling with #1 and I'm sure at some point he liked me. We then just stopped talking. Guy #2 and one are...

kimberly87

Xper 5 Age: 32

Relationships

Are we fizzling out or is this normal?

This is a little long, but please read because I need advice! Basically, this guy and I have been dating for three months, having sex for over two of those months. We haven't had the talk and become official, but we...

hanbanan

Xper 6 Age: 35

Society & Politics

How did everybody's summer go?

Summers over how did yours go. Any hook-ups break-up fling romance any regrets did you do anything new

daking123

Xper 4 Age: 33

Flirting

Do you think he will ever actually contact me - what went wrong?

This guy and I went on a date at this local fair and we had an amazing time and we agreed to having a second date as soon as possible since we both had such a great time. Then all of a sudden he calls me and says "I'm so...

Anonymous

(30-35)

Relationships

Did you leave someone you love this summer for a summer fling??

its a topic this summer: I've witness a lot of long-term relationships end when summer started just because they had somebody on the side, have you ever left someone in the summer thought it was real but eventually turned...

daking123

Xper 4 Age: 33

Guy's Behavior

Does this mean she's interested or does it not really mean anything at all?

So I was texting this girl and she asked me if I had had any summer flings and I said no and asked if she had. She respond yes but then the next text says that she regretted it. She has also been asking me tO hang out a...

Anonymous

(30-35)

Girl's Behavior

Am I out of line here? too clingy?

So I have been dating this girl for about a year. We both love each other and want to be with each other, and there are talks about the future (marriage etc). She went to Europe for 2 months over the summer and returned....

Radiohead200

Xper 3 Age: 40

So I have been dating this girl for about a year. We both love each other and want to be with each other, and there are talks about the future (marriage etc). She went to Europe for 2

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Dating

What makes guys interested in a girl again?

I met a really cute guy and we exchanged numbers. We text/call a few times but the conversation wasn't that flowing. We just stick to the basic. I'm interested in having a summer fling with him. I'm not one of those...

Anonymous

(30-35)

Dating

When he says he doesn't know what he wants?

History: this guy and I arranged to have a simple summer fling. We're bored out of our minds and horny. I approached him with the idea and he accepted. I said that I didn't expect more than that. A couple weeks into it,...

Anonymous

(30-35)

Dating

Do you think she's trying to get our relationship back on track?

Me and my ex of 2.5 broke up in the middle of June, summers just beginning. We hung out for a week straight then the following week one of friends comes home and bam she doesn't even take the time to text, call, or...

daking123

Xper 4 Age: 33