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I was dating this guy for about 4 months. I’m 20, he’s 19. Things were generally going very well. We became exclusive early on. He broke up with me about three weeks after officially becoming boyfriend-girlfriend. That was about a month and half ago. He said that he wanted to be friends, but that a relationship wasn’t desirable for him right now. That sounded fine at the time, but I realized that I still liked him as more than a friend. He also said that he was still attracted to me.

Anyway, we live near each other and have seen each other quite a bit since the breakup. We’ve spent the night.. and have been intimate. I feel like that muddied the waters a bit. Though we’ve broken up, he still acts like a boyfriend. He isn’t actively seeking dates and says that he still likes me. It’s like he partakes in the responsibilities of being a boyfriend, but does not like the title at all.

We had a conversation today. At this point, we had decided to be just friends (ie no sex), but to be open-minded to what the future may hold. I’m just wondering if people ever go from relationship to friends back to relationship. The pessimist in me says that if it didn’t work then, it probably never will… but life changes things, maybe it could work.

What say you?