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So, I've been really happy recently with my boyfriend. Everyone says we are in the "Honeymoon" phase. We were friends for about a year before we started dating, and once we started dating, everything just made more sense. We laugh a lot, have a lot of inside jokes, and lots of similar plans for the future.
I don't ever date casually. When I date, I'm looking for a husband. So we've talked about stuff-preferences with money, career goals, family goals, all of it. We agreed on almost everything, and it seemed too good to be true until we've been spending every day together and I see that he really does have the same values as me.
Of course, we argue, but we have learned how to see from each other's perspectives and it's usually a misunderstanding.
A friend is getting married already and although I DO NOT want to get married until I'm at least 24, I started dreaming about my own wedding. My dress, the songs, everything. Boyfriend isn't freaked out, he plays along and suggests songs to play. I was wondering if I'm crazy or something. I just like to dream. I know realistically that it's silly to think of that sort of commitment with someone you've only dated for 8 months, but when we are cooking together, or at Walmart, living our everyday lives, it just feels so comfortable. We want to help each other. We love spending the time to ourselves and to each other. I'm probably in the honeymoon phase but am I a nutjob for looking at wedding dresses?

My husband and I experience difficulty because he's way too rough with me, not physically but emotionally. His jokes are kind of mean/insulting and half the time he doesn't know how to be "kind" or "gentle" but it was how he was raised.

I think a lot of guys carry this attitude and sometimes lots of men are worse. I think the more "gentle" "Beta" type males receive a lot of female attention because women crave that kind of love.

So what do you guys think? Do you think the male prototype or male expectation is actually destroying their relationships because they aren't taught how to be sweet?

Why do you think guys act this way? Is it because they're afraid of weakness? Is it because they're insecure? Is it because they don't know better? Is it because they're playing the field? Is it because they are afraid of being put down or controlled? Is it because they're high minded? Why do you guys think guys act this way?