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Me & a friend have been quite close this year, we hung out a lot together and we both started falling for each other. Unfortunately she has a long distance boyfriend (from before we started hanging out).

We flirted a lot, she acted jealous when I was around other girls, fed me her food when we went to the restaurant, teases me, asks my opinion on everything, gave each other pet names, etc...

But before we used to call each other everyday, message each other, etc... but because she's in a middle ground between me and her boyfriend, who she told me she is not ready to committ with yet (he has a job, house, etc... but is blatantly cheating on her / playing with her.

I decided to cut contact for a while, so I've decided to go no contact for a while and get my head round things because I've kind of fallen for her.

I bumped into her a few days ago and she accused me of ignoring her, but I quickly changed subject. I went out on the weekend and got with a few other girls and one of them uploaded pictures of us messing around in bed on my snapchat story which she saw.

I feel like a t*** but I really like her, I just don't want her to think of me as desperate so I need some space...

Basically I really want to talk to her, but I don't want to be around while her boyfriend's still in the picture.

I'm going to cut contact for at least three more days and just wait and see.

Is this the right way? Or should I tell her how I feel and tell her that her boyfriend is hurting her because he's a ****?

For more details, I have this question: https://www.girlsaskguys.com/break-up-divorce/q1391209-should-i-keep-this-girl-as-a-friend

Essentially, I liked a girl and we talked almost everyday for 7 months, but I didn’t make any major moves (due to shyness and fear of messing up). She started dating someone else, and when I asked her about it we confessed our feelings for each other.

She said she’s liked me since highschool, but after we started talking she didn’t think it was going anywhere, but still liked me in her life. I told her I still do like her, so I’m not sure what she wants to do. She said she would hate to lose me as a friend, but she doesn’t want me to end up hating her or feeling miserable, so it’s up to me whether we stay friends or not. I told her I didn’t know and needed to think things over, and she said “That’s fine. Do what you need to” (which sorta sounds like she’s expecting me to come back).


Anyway, that was 3 days ago and I haven’t decided what to do yet. The way I see it, I have a few options:

1. 100% No Contact: Leave things where they currently are, cut my losses, and move on

2. Closure, then no contact: Text her back and say I can’t be friends, then cut my losses and move on

3. Closure, but leave myself open: Text her back and say I don’t think I can be just friends with her, but leave myself open and say I’m always here if she needs me

4. Minimal Contact: Start seeing other people, but text her back and say I can try and be friends. Keep her around, but I won’t stress about always texting her back or keeping conversations going

5. Continue talking as a friend: Text her back, be a friend, tell her I’ll get over her, and probably tell her just don’t talk about her boyfriend to me. Still start to see other people, but if her relationship ends and I’m single, maybe consider finally making a move