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If you have the opportunity to get an answer to something you've been wondering for such a long time, but the risk of knowing is losing someone you love, do you ask? or still just always wonder?

Basically a year ago my boyfriend and I split over stupid shit and ended up back together 2 months later. I got a call from the ex girlfriend and she told me that they slept together when we were apart and he told her not to say anything. I was pissed but still stayed with him.
I've been thinking since we got back together though, that maybe he tried to date her again and she said no, so he got back with me because he couldn't have her.

I know that seems stupid, but now I have the chance to ask the ex as she recently gave me her number, because she's a hairstylist and has done my hair before. Part of me is happy I even have the chance to ask her, but the other is nervous that if I do ask her she'll try to talk to my boyfriend or tell him I texted her.

if you were me would you text her or just let it go?

Long story short we were dating for 3 years, got engaged for 6 months. He is 23 I'm 22. He lives with his parents in their basement and they have an unhealthy family dynamic where the "chord" is still attached and the whole family was down the road. They were all functioning alcoholics. His family and I had nothing in common but I always tried to make them happy but It was a game I could never win, they always found something wrong. Anyway, after our engagement we fought and bickered a lot... but i still love him and he loved me... Tuesday we had a "fight" over his parents because he would want to see them every weekend once we were married and I shut that down. Tuesday he said "etch this is stone I WANT TO MARRY YOU" Thursday we have a huge fight he says he''s not going to break up with me but it became a scary fight that I've never seen before and he said he'd call the cops if I didn't leave and couldn't wait to see them take my a** to jail... He accused me of everything in the book (cheating, etc.) So he ended it after everything we went through... I thought he's come back since he always told me about how much he wanted to be with me but Monday I texted and his response was "I made up my mind, it hurts me too, blah blah blah" and It was so confusing because he always fought for me... I believe his mom had something to do with all of this because she told him, "I'm scared once you marry her she will never let you see me again.." (WHO SAYS THAT?) Anyway, he blocked me on social media or unfriended me but didn't block my number... I don't know I miss him a lot and wish we could work this out... It's been a month since the breakup and I found out he passed his audit exam and so I still cared for him and congratulated him and all he said was "Thanks" it hurts but I don't know what to do, How do you go from one day wanting to marry me to the next ending this all and unfollowing me and basically acting like a stranger? How can I get him back?

I have been talking to him for almost a month. We have a couple things in common. He is a few years older than me. He has sent some gym selfies. We were talking about shows and we had a show in common and he asked "This will determine our future relationship who is your favourite character" (something like that) Anyways we have been talking, he asks me questions and I asked him questions to get to know each other. He recently broke up with his ex but it wasn't a bad break up, she just moved far away for school. I was asking him what he was looking for on the site we met on. He said a few dates and maybe a kiss but nothing concrete. He said whatever happens happens. He takes awhile to respond but explains what he was doing.


He tells about his day. There was this big sports game on and he sent me pics of him in his favourite team uniform. Anyways I was explaining to him that I had an operation done and had to wait for the doctors to give the okay etc. When I was asking him what we would do on the date he said it depends on the weather if its spring, summer, winter on when we meet up. (good sign right? that he is willing to wait?) He has been busy with work and explained that too me. I asked him what he looks for in a girl\expects on the first date. He said someone who is nice and honest. I said the same thing because I was looking for that as well. He said we will get along just fine. He was saying that he was at a family event and tells me how close he is to them etc.( I didn't ask him about it he randomly told me) He said he's glad I'm recovering well and that what the doctor said is better than what it was before.