Search Results: girls who flirt with shy guys

I used to be extremely shy. My parents are strict: so I couldnt go out to the movies (until now, I'm 17), go on sleepovers (even if it was all girls), watch more than 30min of tv a day, sit with my peers (I had to sit with my parents), date...🙄 On and on. I didn't get a phone till last year and I've been homeschooled all my life. I guess you could say I got a lot of attention from the guys so the girls either hated me and thought I was stuck up. I was too shy and didn't show any interest in the guys that flirted/liked me. I've never dated or been kissed. My focus is on being successful scholastically and making myself a better person. I am building up my confidence and when I force myself to reach out and make friends and most people that know me well like me. Because girls tend to glare at me and guys stare but don't approach me, I am as kind as possible and don't brag about anything (clothes, school, boys etc).

So I'm kinda interested in dating and guys lol but I don't know if any of them are interested in me anymore. Several guys have pursued me for years, flirted with me but gave up, play hot and cold etc. do they just consider me a challenge? Do they stare at me because they like me or just to look? Do they not approach me because they think I'll say no or cause they don't like me? I've watched my friends go through bad guys so I can tell when a guys a player. I'm talking about nice/regular guys that do this. It's I'm graduating next year so maybe when I go away to college... cause I'm stuck in a complicated situation. Help!

I don't want to sound superficial or conceited, but I've experienced this from men.. I'm wondering if some men who are average looking, nerdy, not jocky or player like at all, but the shy, "not too many woman" kind of guy who prefer to stay inside and aren't as social, etc.. If they would not want to date a woman who has a lot of guys after her and is very attractive? Do guys actively think about that? As in, "why would I start something with her if she has all these choices and I'm just some other dude she'll leave in a couple weeks." So they don't start anything even if the girl shows interest and initiates or tries to be with the guy?

And if this is a thing, what is essential for the woman to do?

MY example is I met a guy online who is nerdy. I'm attractive, I have a really pretty face and I have guys after me a lot. I'm not stuck up, it's just how it is. We are friends on FB, and I get a lot of likes and comments from men on Facebook who may flirt a little or strike up a convo on my posts... And this guy messaged me asking about one of the guys (he was just a friend) and he went from interested to "you're not what I'm looking for and you'll lose interest in me in 2 weeks" and he wished to say goodbye. Another guy saw me tagged in a post of a guys on Facebook, it wasn't anything flirty.. But then he told me I'm "too pretty" for him and hasn't spoken to me since. All these guys I haven't met in person, and I haven't done anything to change their opinions besides when they see some comment or something on Facebook by another guy... And I won't even respond to those posts. I don't get it. Do they think I'm playing them or something and just move from guy to guy?