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They've been married for 4 or 5 years now. I met him 2 years ago. I was 21, he was 31. We were dating for a few months. He didn't tell me he was married. We had sex. I fell in love. Then I once told him in a joke "can't believe such an amazing guy is not married by now" and he told me "I actually am married".

I thought I should never see him again. I tried dating others but I was still in love with him. His wife was in another country half of the time because of work or maybe she didn't want to spend time with him. I don't know. I was basically living with him for some time. With her stuff all around.

He was very possessive about me and he once locked me in his apartment because he didn't want me to meet someone else. When he returned from work, we had a nasty fight and I went out. He told me to return by midnight or he will kick my stuff out. I told him perfect. I'll pick them up in the morning. He left my stuff but also a bunch of gifts at the reception of the building.

He forgot my shampoo and his wife found it when she returned. He sent me messages "WHY DID YOU LEAVE IT THERE, BITCH?"

After that he kept texting me every month again. Asking me to meet again. And saying I was the best girl ever. He says he met a few girls after me but it's not good and he just keeps thinking about me. Even though it's been more than a year since we last saw each other! Every time I tell him that I have a boyfriend, that I don't want to meet, and to stop cheating and to just focus on his wife, and he says he can't.

Should I tell her he is cheating or not?

Backstory: So I'm 24. I went to high school with this guy a few years back (we'll call him Matt) and we were best friends in high school. He was always interested in me, asking me out, and we went out a lot and spend tons of time together. Made each other laugh till we cried, and were just always there for each other. We were super close for 4 years, and I went to college and we fell out of touch (my fault). He texted me 5 years ago out of the blue, and all the feelings came rushing back. We had dinner a few times, and he asked me multiple times over the past few years to hang out, but I didn't because I'm just an idiot and I have no excuse really.

Long story short, I realized I loved him and still do, but haven't had the courage to tell him after all these years of feeling this way. He now has a serious girlfriend, they've been dating for a year, and seem super happy together. I'm worried that they'll get engaged and I'll never get to tell him how I feel. You should know what I've been in a 6-year relationship that has been HAUNTED by Matt, I can't stop thinking about him, I even have dreams about him, regularly! Super weird. Truth is, I just miss him like hell and I still love him, and I wouldn't be able to live with myself if he got engaged or married and I never told him. Problem is, I don't want to ruin his relationship or disrespect him in any way by telling him how I feel. So guys... should I tell him?