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Hi. In case this sounds familiar I made another post yesterday, so this is a little like an "update" in a way but I'm still really confused about what to do.

My long distance boyfriend of two years and I are having some issues. However I'm not entirely sure if it's a rough patch or if it's just not going to work. There have been some bigger recurring differences between us (mainly he liking to have a certain amount of time alone and me wanting to spend a lot of time together) but I think that one could be worked out. There is also something else that has been bothering me however and that's just that we can't seem to be able to have a long, good, interesting conversation and that it just feels like he's generally uninvolved in a way when we do things together and this bothers me because it makes me feel a bit disconnected emotionally and that leads to me being somewhat unhappy. It sometimes doesn't really feel like he's there since he doesn't interact a lot. I have talked with him about this (several times!) and from the things he has said and the fact that it's been a recurring issue for a while it doesn't seem like this is going to change (?). Amongst other things he acknowledged the problem and told me that "that's how it's going to be" and just seems reluctant to make an effort on that front.

We do love eachother tho, and he does have some really nice qualities that I like so it would make me sad to lose this relationship, but I'm not sure if this is sustainable long term. (There are more good people out there tho, right? D:). It doesn't help that there have been some things that are out of our control preventing us from spending time together (outside of talking which... Doesn't really happen).

Is this a deal breaker or am I making too big of a deal out of things? Am I asking for too much? What should my next step (s) be?

I'm putting a (way too simple) poll here as well but please please leave a comment if you have anything that could he helpful. Cheers.

How do you commonly spend your quality time alone - just the two of you?