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for instance if only one if you is ready to date. what should the other do.

I've liked this guy a long time , we are very attracted but i can't tell if he's interested in dating. he was interested but i was not ready for anyone not just him. and we stayed friends, he sort of casually dated but broke up and always came back to me as a special person. i have never dated hed be the first and only person i liked.

he does not talk to other girls, and if one comes up to him he will look only at me, he shares things with me, stares all the time, smiles real big when he sees me -esp when he does not know im looking, tells me when he's free , gives me gifts he makes, competes for attention over other guys im not even into- even my gay friends, asks for advice... BUT when i ask him if he wants to hang out he gets fidgety and avoids answering.

i can't go on this way. i like him so much and i realize I've missed out on many people just thinking of him. i feel idiotic if he isn't actually interested. its not even im in a rush for action i just want to know IF there's a possibility. i think i will just ask if he's interested in dating. if he says no -i move o. is that too harsh? i just dk if i can be friends and not want him.

i avoided asking him on an actual date bc i thought itd ruin our friendship. but i think im wasting time... like we could date without dating. just hang out and let liking each other be enough. but, why can't we be friends and date. of we like each other, dating should not ruin that. if it does we prob just had lust or crush--right?

Given, this happened to me twice last year, but I'm just curious to see if this happened to others.

I found out the first guy, who I just had a crush on, was gay after running into him and his boyfriend on my way to class. I saw them holding hands. Later I checked with a friend and she confirmed that he was in fact gay.

The other I didn't find out until we were on the date. We were getting lunch at a cafe and he said "So how does it feel to be on a date with a gay man?". All I could do is sigh and say "This isn't the first time.". Although I do wish he would have told me before so I could have avoided that situation, we're friends now.

So do any of you have stories?