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I went out with this girl twice a few months ago and we went out several times, and it went well. But she wasn't sure how she felt about being in a relationship and she stopped talking to me.

It's been 4 months and we started talking and went out last night. She explained she was seeing someone else and got into a relationship with him, and he got her addicted to cocaine and some other drugs and she cut off everyone because of how controlling he was.
She spent s month in the hospital after they broke up because of the drugs and she got off them, but moved in with a girl and they had a fling that went sideways.
She moved home and has been working on herself and she said that it meant a lot to her I was checking on her, she did really like me. But she wants to be friends and even friends with benefits for a bit so she can find herself and get right. But she said I'm very different from the people she has dated.
I don't drink or do drugs or have ever done that. She has mainly stuck to smoking cigarettes and drinking, but she wanted to quit smoking but uses it to replace the drugs.
I mean, I do really like her. She's 19 and I'm 23 so there's a huge maturity difference. But she said she likes how different and better she feels with me.
But during her drug phase, she had sex with her friends a lot, and that further concerns me. She is a genuinely good person, but her wild side gets the best of her.

I'm not sure what to do. We went out last night, and it went well. She liked being with me, but at times she was glued to her phone.
But she wants to get together tonight and as much as possible next week because she has the week off.
I'm conflicted.

One day you receive a call from your grandparent, they were hit by a car and are currently laying in bed at the hospital, requesting you to pick up their things from home and to help them take care of the administrative stuff.

They kindly ask you not to tell "the others", and they cite "not wanting to worry them" as the explicit reason behind this request.

As time goes on, you find yourself in the center of situations with a similar theme.
Your relative is losing their job and has found themselves in a bit of a financial pickle,
Another one of your relatives was recently diagnosed with a potentially incurable fatal disease and wants you to be the first one to know,
and neither of them wants to worry the others, either.

In this situation, would you:
Feel a bit disappointed, and interpret these occurrences as the demonstration that those around you are perhaps not as concerned about your worries as they are about the worries of the other members of your family.
or
Feel honored, and interpret these occurrences as the testament to those around you acknowledging your maturity / ability to remain composed and focused even in the midst of difficult situations.