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Scenario: youve been in a comitted relationship for years and live together, they cheated on you when they were drunk and you walked in on the act. This happened during a time when you have been suffering from a lack of libido so there was not frequent sex within your relationship.

If you knew that they had never cheated before and you believed that it would never happen again and they promised to seek counceling, could you give them another chance to make things right?

Id really appreciate some personal stories from people who have cheated or been cheated on and tried to make it work after.

By circle I mean the type of life you have like if you're an artist you probably associate with other artists and date someone that's artistic.

The reason I ask is because I've realized that I don't really date guys that are in circle,in other words, not similar to me. And I don't seem to attract the male version of myself or if I do its very rare.

I mostly attract total opposites but I've never given them much of a chance because I'm afraid I'll get taken advantage of.

I look innocent and I am so why would the thug/bad boy types want me? I'm trying to go to college and not get side tracked by guys that have no interest in school. I'm pretty sure they can tell I'm inexperienced because I act like it but I'm not gona give it up easy so why even try?

I meet most of these guys out in the street or on public transportation. If guys at my college approached me id be on them in a second but that has yet to happen. All I get is stares, maybe I come across as stuck up but I'm really jus shy.

I met a guy via online dating. We talked for 5 weeks before meeting up. I guess I wanted to make sure he seemed normal, nice and decent. We opened up to each other about a lot of things, but as time would tell, he hid a lot too...



We slept together too early - second date. And then he pulled away and revealed more of his 'real ' self. no more sweet talking - and a lot more brash and up himself. then he would be sweet again, and send heaps of text messages, opening up about how he's a bad guy and bad influence, that his brother is a bikie and the gang comes over often. That he does drugs etc. I was shocked, but also compassionate. seemed like a cry for help. we got close again (talking - not sex) and the talks were good.



Then he was rude and asked me to pick him up from a date. I lost it and told him to grow up. It's like he enjoyed seeing that I cared. He then messaged and called asking me to please come over and see him - I ignored it.



Anyway I called him on his 'act' and games and pulled away. I told him I wouldn't see someone who treated me like dirt and spoke to me unkindly. He then put on the 'nice guy' act again, all because of the chase I think. And the harder I made it for him, the more he chased. He promised he just wanted me to give him a chance to make it right. and that if all I offered was friendship fine he would take that. so after a week of pleading, I gave in.



Wemet - but only as friends. I went to his place and he was p*ssed off when I left becuase I didn't sleep with him or even let him touch me. I told him if he begged to see me for so long after being friends, and he can't REALLY be friends - then leave me alone. It was a tactic to make him realize his own game had failed.

Anyway I still have a feeling ill hear from him again, maybe in a few days or a week. that's what he tends to do when I say 'dont contact me again'. What do I do then? He's made it clear he's talking to other girls - that's fine I'd rather someone else put up with the lies and games. but why does he keep coming back? Especially when he knows he's not getting anything from me now I know his game.