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When I was pregnant with my boyfriend of three months baby, all he did was tell me what to do, where to go and get mad when I was with friends. he threatened to call the movie theater I was in cause I didn't wanna text him during it, cursed my friends out on Facebook and said I was irresponsible to hang out with them. he sat on his ass doing nothing and wanted me to look for apartments, etc pregnant and all. he was in a bad living situation but wasn't stepping up and treating me like crap.

I feel he used my pregnancy as a crutch too "im the father of your to be child and my opinion doesn't matter!" and "your a lying **** I know you're with your friends" and once he got mad at me for no reason and said "were done abort the baby". but of course he really wanted the baby and became obsessed with my every action.

it got so bad, I was frightened and decided to go against my pro life morals and get an abortion. after two whole months he wasn't manning up or helping me and my dreams of NYU graduate school would be over for him. I didn't want my child to suffer this lifestyle with him as a dad and (my boyfriend drinks a lot too) feared that he didn't really care about me or the baby. he could have been using it for a way out.

When he found out I had one, he stayed with me but then called me a murderer. he said "now that you killed it, my uncle won't feel bad and give me a job...now that you killed it, my mom won't let me stay with her and she's kicking me out"

His words totally verified my belief of him using me, what do you think about this? His own mom who's pro life said I made the right choice cause her son isn't responsible, he's a user and treats people like sh*t.

Do you think he genuinely cared about me and the baby or was using it to his benefit? (day I found out I was pregnant, I cried and he don't even comfort me and said "well I'm out of the army now" and didn't even care I had to give uo school)

My boyfriend and I have been together a little over two months now. He can be the sweetest person ever and he's so funny and I just love to be around him.

But the problem is he gets very moody. I guess that's the best way to describe it. One day he will hug me and tell me how much he loves me and then the next day he will tell me he doesn't feel like hanging out, and needs some personal time. That's totally fine with me, just one example of how his feelings and moods just totally swing to totally opposite ends of the spectrum.

Another example: Recently he started a conversation up about what's right/wrong in a relationship. He told me that he thinks it would be okay to flirt with a person of the opposite gender, as long as you didn't take it seriously and it was just for fun. I totally disagreed with that statement (I think that it's a shallow form of cheating to do so) and the whole conversation blew up into an argument. In the end though, we both apologized and things went back to "normal."

That's how it always goes. He makes me feel like crap (by not being considerate of my feelings) for a short period of time, then tries to make things better when he finally cools down, by saying he didn't mean something a certain way or other excuses. Then he's all loving on me for a while, and then it cycles again.

But whenever he makes me feel bad, I tell him. I'm not one to stew over things, and I am not afraid to tell him he's treating me like sh*t. Usually he tries to make excuses for himself in order to hold onto me.

He says that he truly does care about me, he just doesn't always act like it. I think this is a load of crap, because if you care about someone you would definitely make an effort for them, right? But I don't know... I get so confused about how I feel about him.

But from a bystander's perspective, what are your thoughts? Any explanations for the mood swings? And mostly, is this treatment typical of a teenage guy? I should hope not but the question remains...is it worth it? Date him or dump him?