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Hey girls and guys,

I don't really know what to say or rather write..
I just noticed, somehow I always had bad luck with women or people in general. I am almost 18 by the way, telling this as a precaution before people think I was a 13 years old kid.

Well, back to the topic.
Always over the last few years, I never managed establish even just a friendship with girls I liked. It usually starts like me being an asshole because that is what I am naturally, then I start to notice that I actually could like that girl.
Well then depending on the case, I might become fine with her, but then usually some small things screw everything up and I am not really good with that girl again, currently it seems I screwed up really bad by keeping secrets from her which involved her.
Now she's pissed, doesn't trust me anymore and I have no clue what to do.
I really like her, but well, it seems she doesn't like me anymore.

I am not sure whether I am a complete idiot, always chase the wrong ones or whatever. Help me out with just some answer so I don't feel that unloved anymore. Thanks.

There is a poll by the way.

For more details, I have this question: https://www.girlsaskguys.com/break-up-divorce/q1391209-should-i-keep-this-girl-as-a-friend

Essentially, I liked a girl and we talked almost everyday for 7 months, but I didn’t make any major moves (due to shyness and fear of messing up). She started dating someone else, and when I asked her about it we confessed our feelings for each other.

She said she’s liked me since highschool, but after we started talking she didn’t think it was going anywhere, but still liked me in her life. I told her I still do like her, so I’m not sure what she wants to do. She said she would hate to lose me as a friend, but she doesn’t want me to end up hating her or feeling miserable, so it’s up to me whether we stay friends or not. I told her I didn’t know and needed to think things over, and she said “That’s fine. Do what you need to” (which sorta sounds like she’s expecting me to come back).


Anyway, that was 3 days ago and I haven’t decided what to do yet. The way I see it, I have a few options:

1. 100% No Contact: Leave things where they currently are, cut my losses, and move on

2. Closure, then no contact: Text her back and say I can’t be friends, then cut my losses and move on

3. Closure, but leave myself open: Text her back and say I don’t think I can be just friends with her, but leave myself open and say I’m always here if she needs me

4. Minimal Contact: Start seeing other people, but text her back and say I can try and be friends. Keep her around, but I won’t stress about always texting her back or keeping conversations going

5. Continue talking as a friend: Text her back, be a friend, tell her I’ll get over her, and probably tell her just don’t talk about her boyfriend to me. Still start to see other people, but if her relationship ends and I’m single, maybe consider finally making a move