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What would you do if your SO called you by their ex's name out of anger? This woman was a whore--to put it mildly. She thought she was 'all that', had multiple tattoos and allowed many 'professional' photographers fuck her and ended up pregnant with another man's child while married to him. She took their only child with her and he hasn't seen his daughter since. We had a very minor disagreement about work and the next thing I know it had escalated to him shouting at me in her name. I was mortified and beyond disgusted and pissed. I've never stepped out on him , and have felt extremely uncomfortable being around other men! We've been together for two years, he's never done that before! I haven't let him touch me since. I'm on the fence about how to deal with this, I've sensed for months that he sees her 'in me' though we have very different backgrounds and personalities. We absolutely do have similar facial features, (nearly) same color hair, eyes, mouth (of weak Irish Heritage, could almost be sisters if you didn't know better). He swears he doesn't, that I'm nothing like her, yet he jumps on my case for things that make no sense to me and then, after two years, last night we were having an argument about a work project, when he insulted me for not realizing he was the authority on the subject, then yelled at me in her name. I haven't slept in the bed with him since and won't let him touch me, or given in to his flirts. I don't know if I can get past this, it's been two years we've been together now, and we've promised to always have one anothers back but the last few months have been unbearable, all in her name. I'm so furious and hurt I can't see straight, much less think about being affectionate with him.