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I am seeing this guy and we are exclusive, according to him. He’s been in relationships and is no longer a virgin (evidently). I am 23 and still am. He said he is afraid my lack of experience is an issue, because he’s been a virgin and knows it is scary. He told me he’d prefer to have sex with someone before falling in love with them to confirm there is an intimate connection. We have done a few things but not full blown sex. However, he mentions that this is “my gift” and I should not feel in a rush to give it up. He says we have a great emotional connection and he has fun with me physically, but the sexual concern on both sides (his drive/experience and my concerns) are a hurdle. However, he says he still wants something long term with me.

I am also afraid that he will end up leaving me after I give it up. I told him this too. I always had this fear of giving it up and the guy walking out. He doesn’t seem that type, he’s treated me good. And says he intends to be with me for the long haul. Is there an issue or is it in my head?
The only issue would be waiting until marriage and I don’t plan to wait that long😳

Hey guys,

This is a poll for those who are Christians, but if you aren't religious your opinion is still highly valued and I would love to hear it in the comment section, just don't vote please, so that I can get a clear picture of what modern young Christians think. Thank you!

I am a 25 years old virgin, engaged. The things between me and him are going great and I love everything that's going on between us but sometimes I get confused and I am afraid we do sin even though we don't do not engage in any sexual activities. Making out is as far as we go, it does get really hot and heavy sometimes though (but no hands down there, nothing like that). He did touch my breasts several times really gently though and that was amazing but I am definitely not sure about that, really. So I would appreciate your opinion on this, whatever it is!

It should be said though that both he and I are Christians but we share the opinion that when the Bible was written, people would get married really young and not even knowing each other, so obviously romantic kissing, cuddling or moreover, making out and anything further than that would be considered not appropriate. Back then the woman would be betrothed, and then they would really communicate only after their first wedding night, right? Now the situation is very different and many people date for many months or years. The society has changed GREATLY, and so did the relationships between men and women. I am saying this because it's just a fact, not because I try to make an excuse, by the way :) It's just what we are thinking and we would love to hear your opinion too. We certainly do not want to have sex before marriage. But what about all the other stuff, what about all this "grey area"?

So tell me, what are your boundaries and why? Any comments are really appreciated! Thank you in advance!

Hey guys,

So this is my first question here and I would really appreciate your answers because this is something important to me! This is a poll for those, who are Christians, but if you aren't religious, your opinion is still highly valued and I would love to hear it in the comment section, just don't vote please, so that I can get a clear picture of what modern young Christians think. Thank you!

I am a 25 years old virgin, engaged. The things between me and him are going great and I lovу everything that's going on between us but sometimes I get confused and I am afraid we do sin even though we don't do not engage in any sexual activities. Making out is as far as we go, it does get really hot and heavy sometimes though (but no hands down there, nothing like that). He did touch my breasts several times really gently though and that was amazing but I am definitely not sure about that, really. So I would appreciate your opinion on this, whatever it is!

It should be said though that both he and I are Christians but we share the opinion that when the Bible was written, people would get married not even knowing each other, so obviously romantic kissing, cuddling or moreover, making out and anything further than that would be considered not appropriate. Back then the woman would be betrothed, and then they would really communicate only after their first wedding night, right? Now the situation is very different and many people date for many months or years. The society has changed GREATLY, and so did the relationships between men and women. I am saying this because it's just a fact, not because I try to make an excuse, by the way :) It's just what we are thinking. We certainly do not want to have sex before marriage. But what about all the other stuff, what about all this "grey area"?

So tell me, what are your boundaries and why? Any comments are really appreciated! Thank you in advance!