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I really like this guy I work with but things are so hot and cold that I can't figure out what's going on. I got the feeling that he's getting over someone because in a few chats, we've both talked about our exes. He showed me a pic of her too and told me stories about their time dating.

We're pretty close now and text, snapchat, goof off at work and now are starting to hangout outside of work or get lunch. We planned a trip, and he couldn't go for financial reasons. I was sad for him because he didn't make other plans to enjoy his vacation he just bummed around at home, so I got him a souvenir that he keeps in his pocket. He invited me to a concert coming up, I invited him for coffee. During that time he said he doesn't date because he's mentally got too much going on. I didn't decide if I wanted to date yet so I thought that was a bit... premature. I never ask anything to warrant his objections so I always feel like he's just talking to himself. In spite of that we stayed out for 2 hours and closed the cafe. In addition, I got confused because two weeks before he talked about asking out this girl to me and a mutual friend who then turned him down. When he told the story he again said he's too "depressed to date".

So I'm confused trying to figure out if he's interested in me, other girls, or wants to date but is still heartbroken. He planned to take me to the city for this concert, and talked about how we'll spend the day exploring, going to museums, and he mentions it and how he's excited. He keeps me updated on his life and even during a hypothetical, he looked me in my eyes and said he could spend the rest of his life with me. I haven't mentioned wanting to date, but sometimes when I talk to him he tells me how he feels like our generation isn't romantic and we're too physical (which I agree with) and talks about how he won't kiss on the first date because he wants to really get to know someone.

Our attraction was instant. It's rare for me to be instantly attracted to a guy. He recently began working at a fast food spot on campus; I went to the spot a couple of times and the attraction was still strong. He seemed shy so I gave him my number and snapchat. He hit me up hours later and made plans. We hung out with two other people. Everything went well. I go home for a week and he would text me. We talked about seeing each other when I came back. So when I arrived and hit him up, he curved me. This was the beginning of a pattern. He would curve me then text the next day apologizing and make plans again, but then curve me. I've asked about it everytime and he said it's not me but he has mad shit going on, but he'll make time for me and that he lives close. Whenever I'd go to the food place, he'd see me and be all flirty. He'd tell me that he would see me but after being curved 3.5 times I obviously don't take him seriously. He actually does have mad shit going on but life can't stop cuz of it. The other day I thought we'd get to hangout but instead drove to his friends place to sit in the car while he stood outside and talked to me not even 15 mins. He mentioned something about me not wanting to be in a room full of guys... he may not have meant anything by it but I take that as him not wanting to be seen with me. (Side note: I used to be fat. Ugly duckling to beautiful swan story is my life. The guy that I was fucking during the ugly duckling part was extremely embarrassed of me). Our only interactions have been that one hang out, whenever I get food, and 15 mins outside my car. I'm super confused. If he's not interested why pretend to be? Also he is aware that Im around another month. So obviously I wasn't looking for anything serious. Which leaves me kinda offended. It makes me think he doesn't want me. I mean even dudes without cars (he's one of em) make effort to see a girl they are interested in. Is he even interested is the question or is he playing me?