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This guy that I had a casual hookup thing with recently used me to cheat on the girlfriend I didn't know about. We hooked up a few times in September and then things got "too busy" for him - which I believed because we're in school. Over the summer he admitted to liking me, and when I tried to start something he said he couldn't manage dating. I apologized for getting pushy and pressuring him and he said we would hang out and "fix" the situation of us not having sex soon. Last week he snapped a picture of him on a date. The next day we were messaging and he said he was only trying something out with a friend. I said I would still casually jump him but if there is another girl, we can just be friends. We suggestively texted for a bit and then he made a plan to come over. We had sex, and after he told me he had made an agreement with that girl to be together. He used me to cheat - he felt awful about it, but said he wouldn't tell her. I also told him I wouldn't tell her.

Now, it's been a week and he hasn't told her. I want to know if I should tell her or get a friend of mine to message her and say "My friend is in pieces, you should know that this is the guy you're dating" basically, but more elegant. Please help.

Me and my boyfriend had only been going out around a month when I went on my first girls holiday. During the holiday we got talking to some lads- very innocently. My girlfriends that we're taken shyed away and didn't speak to them. I stayed and chatted with my single friend.

Me and one of the guys got talking about politics (exciting I know haha!) but because the music was so loud I could barely hear him and so had to put my ear to his mouth to hear him. He was sitting on a table and I was leaning over him. I can understand how it looked. I was almost lying on top of him because of the way he was slouched on the table. It was all very innocent I wasn't interested or even attracted the guy.

My friends who were in a relationship got mad at me and accused me of cheating. The barmen who we had gotten to know throughout the holiday made fun of me and called me 'rapey'.

My boyfriend knows about it and got a little off with me about it for the whole of 5 minutes but my friends still make me feel terrible for it now, 2 years on. I feel like they're judging me and see me as a cheat.

I was quite drunk but knew what I was saying, doing and can remember the whole night, I just wasn't thinking about how it LOOKED. At the same time though I don't think I should be restricted to only talking to girls/ignoring guys who happen to get talking to us because I have a boyfriend. That's exactly what my girls friends do and although I don't think they mean it and I don't think they are against people who are taken speaking to the opposite sex that aren't friends, I feel they judge me/look down on me for doing so when in reality I'm only having a bit of fun and getting to know others- even when drunk I still love my boyfriend and would never cheat.