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My best friend is dating this older girl at the moment. He's like a bro to me. I've known him about 5 years now. He had a crush on me back in middle school, but ever since I shut that down, he's been a great friend and is actually on that bro level. My mom calls him son and wants us to end up together, but I'm seriously not feeling it.

Anyways, he's told this new girlfriend I'm like a sis to him but I guess she doesn't believe it. She has his phone 24/7 and doesn't allow him to text any girls. He's not even allowed to go to a theme park with me because she doesn't want him sharing a hotel with me AND my family. She and I basically just got into over the phone. He even got hisself kicked out of his home just so he could continue to date her bossy ass.

I miss my blood-like bro, but Do you allow your girl to takeover your phone?

Hello! Now, I'm the kind of person that likes consulting stuff with others before taking big decisions. And who better to consult than the lovely people of the internet. And... it is ironically fitting for the "thing" I am desperately trying to figure out.

As the title might have given out, I have been in a "relationship" for a little over a year (who am I kidding, almost two friggin years!?!) with a guy that lives on the other side of the planet. And besides the obvious uneasiness of not being able to see each other, I feel.. empty. I love him to pieces but I feel like he doesn't return my feelings completely, if not at all. But the thing is, everytime I would break up with him, he would always come back and ask for another chance. You would think that after each breakup he would learn from his mistakes (Ugh. And I am a very tolerant person, and I don't usually care about other people's mistakes... but this guy just grinds my gears!*mutters*), but noooooo...

They got worse.

He never shows me his true feelings, yet he sometimes talks so sweet to me that I have to pinch myself to see if it's only a dream. Or he would be really cold, and ignore me or talk with curt replies. He is just so confusing... I have been having a really rough time ever since I got in this relationship, but I can't make myself forget about him. It hurts when I'm with him and have him send me mixed signals, but it hurts even more when he's not there.

Probably not the best explanation ever, but I am kind of super embarrassed already as it is for sharing this on here. Imagine if I had to put all of the cheesy and sad and pervy *cough* details that might give you a better insight of everything that has happened up until now.

Well, there you have it. I got no freaking clue of what I should do next.. Thanks for reading and sorry for the rant!

So I've been seeing this guy for almost 6months. About 2months in we became exclusive. We started talking less &less, going down to about like two times a week or maybe 3. I am now only seeing him about once every two weeks. Typically if I initiate plans...

Anyways, we had a convo the other night &I told him personal things from my childhood that were hard for me to talk about. (over the internet) he never responded but continued to log online and off... so I sent another message for apologizing in sharing so much, I was embarrassed and some what unsure that I should have told him. Still no response. Then I got upset &told him that I felt put off because he completely disregarded me opening up to him. That I would never disregard him because I care about him.

He has previously opened up to me about various things &I always listened and was there for him. The one time I open up, he just disappears... 36hrs later he messaged me back. Told me he wasn't asking to be held to expectations &never wanted to be a "boyfriend"... that I made him my bf. That hurt because for 5+ months I thought we had mutual feelings... I told him that if it was just a friends with benefits situation, I would have appreciated a heads up. He told me I am more than a friends with benefits .

All I asked was to be respected and not ignored at times where I open up in conversation (because we were having a convo, I didn't just say it randomly)... I feel like a person should have common courtesy to close a conversation or respond to a question when you know the answer v. ignoring for days or never answering.

As far as how he became my bf...
We agreed to be exclusive. He met a gf of mine and she kept referring to him as my bf. Later that night before bed I asked him if he was my bf and he answered yes. I guess he only said yes for his own reasons...

I sent him a message on how I am feeling at this point. Told him to message when he is ready. It has been a day.

your opinion?