When a guy jokingly says I love you?

[Anonymous]

I know it doesn't actually mean actual love but could that mean there are some feelings there?

there's a guy i have a thing for. He always jokes around with me. He does it with everyone else too but its different with me. We get childish. We argue over dumb stuff and he sticks out his tongue at me and makes faces. Its so funny. Lately, he's been very touchy. Hell come from behind and grab my shoulders. Or he'll stand next to me and elbow me and he gets sort of close to my face but we push eachother.

He always helps me out though. We are salesmen and he always hands me sales or he shares with me. The other day, he worked with my friend and he didn't share at all and i said that was messed up so he shared the next one. One day she asked him why he keeps sharing with me and he said because he had a thing for me and i knew. She also asked why is he so mean to me, that if it was a preschool thing and he said yeah. Lately when he does things for me, he tells me its because he likes me.

Just the other day, we "fought" about something and i just laughed and kept doing what i was doing and he smiled at me and said, "i love you." I just laughed and said ok cool. Later that day i was alone and he comes over and tells me. "I dont want you to think im a jerk. I am sorry if i offend you or if im being really mean. Just tell me if i am" and im like, "no you're fine" and he kept apologizing and i said no its ok. And he's like, "if im getting annoying, and you tell me to stop. Ill stop. Just let me know." And i told him he's not annoying. And as he was walking away and i said, "no. Dont stop. Keep doing what you're doing," and he said, "really? Well ok. Thank you for that" and i said no problem. I don't know where that came from.

I've never had a guy pay this much attention to me so im not sure what it all means. Especially the i love you thing. I doubt he meant it right? We were several feet apart when he said it.

[danny90004]

It's obvious that he really likes you, maybe Love is pretty a strong word when he said ot and probably didn't know how else to express his feeling. I mean the whole "I dont want you to think im a jerk. I am sorry if i offend you or if im being really mean. Just tell me if i am" and "if im getting annoying, and you tell me to stop. Ill stop. Just let me know." you could sense the bit of insecurity he had. He wants you to think of him as a great guy as well but has probably felt the way he's been going about it seems a bit snooby and he wants to make up for it by being the gentleman and apologizing. Whatever the case may be, one thing is for sure, he really really REALLY likes you.

[Asker]

Yeah I've noticed he's been so sweet the last few months. And i thought i was the one being mean to him. I should be apologizing.

Weve had these talks before. When he does something "mean" even though i know he's playing, he tells me he's only mean to me because he likes me. I told him me too. But I don't know. Im not a good communicator.

Gosh its all so strange to me. He used to try to act like a player when i first met him and since i never showed i was impressed, he calmed down and changed his approach. He has said he doesn't date much. But he always has girls throwing themselves at him and he doesn't like it.

[danny90004]

He could have noticed how you were and said to himself well maybe I just need to approach her differently and wants to seem like a good guy to you. Is he very observant of you? Like does he try to pick up things that you do, like anything in general, body language and stuff? If so, it's probably because he wants to know what ticks you off and what doesn't so that he knows what to do or not to do when he is around you. It's fine a lot of people are not great communicators and it takes a lot for someone to express their feelings outright. Most people like to this by showing body language which can be very tricky to read. All in all, this guy is falling you pretty hard. The whole he doesn't date much but girls always throwing themselves at him, I've seen that before.

[Asker]

Yes. He notices every little thing i do. He points out every little gesture. He points out that i look to the side when i lie, when i smile for things, when im mad or sad, when i try to hide my smile. And he always says that he wants to see me when im truly mad and such.

This is all so strange for me. I've never had anyone like me so much. Im nothing like the girls he hangs around with.

[danny90004]

There's always a first time for everything. Hopefully things are still good between both of you :)

[Cowboy6666]

Don't assume all the time that joke is joke.. Might be he was serious... N was observing your reactions... Or might be i m wrong...

[Asker]

Yeah he always observes my reactions. He points out everything i do. He points out how i look to the side when i lie. When i cross my arms, when i am sad or angry. he's very observant.

I don't know. I feel like its too soon to say its love. I do like him a lot. And i get really happy and safe when im around him. Its not just butterflies. I feel genuinely happy when i see him. And i think my coworkers notice. My boss has asked me why im so happy sometimes. And I've had people ask me why im always pink and if its because i like someone. But its too soon for actual love.

[glamgamergal]

Funny shut I basically had the same experience he lives you but don't come to forword that you like him or get crazed on your mine or else you have another thing coming for you and your friendship will turn to grey

[Asker]

Yeah i was about to say it back but i thought about it and just laughed it off.

Im trying to show him that im pretty laid back and chill about things even though im like wtf! He doesn't know how i feel. :D

[glamgamergal]

Lol yeah one of the times the guy said it to me we were playing basketball along with some friends he came behind me like extremely close with his head over my shoulder and whispered in my ear I love you

I literally freaked out so much I made the excuse I was running home to get water and a snack

[Anonymous]

gurrl are you blind? yes, he loves you. It's obvious. LOL

[Asker]

Like actual love? No. It can't be. Maybe he loves me as a friend. We haven't even known eachother for that long. I met him in November. And weve never even hung out outside of work.

He started out acting like a player and he told me i was hot and he would stare at me up and down. I never gave him the response he wanted but i didn't make things awkward and he started acting extra sweet. He even looks me in the eyes now. He still stares but i never notice anymore. My friend tells me.

[LiamJHayden]

Three general possibilities when a guy says that:

1. It could be genuine.
2. It could mean, "I love how I feel when you are around.", which is more about him than you.
3. It could be an attempt to manipulate you into sleeping with him.

[slatyb]

Ask him -- "You keep saying 'I love you'. Why don't you ask me out? Or do you not mean it that way?"

[Klaatu51]

jokingly means... jokingly...

chances are low to mean it seriously ;-)

[luvme56]

I didn't read everything... but if he says that jokingly he is trying to be casual eith you... or tease you! :)

[mommymommymommy]

If a guy is saying e loves you, he likely really means it

Just like when a woman does it, guys