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1. When a guy ask me out I assume he wants more
2. I get defensive quick, my first thought is cheating, failure or abandonment
3. I can talk openly and have deep conversation, but if a guy shows interest in a romantic way I freeze and run away I avoid conversation about it
4. Too scared to be sexual, cause I caught feelings for my friends with benefits and he didn’t want me in a romantic way (I am celibate because of it. Have been for years).
5. I am loving, witty, caring and open.
6. I love dates, but I don’t want to date I just want the guy I am supposed to be with sent from the heavens. And not do the work behind finding “the one”.
7. I can be unavailable emotionally and cold
8. Don’t like PDA or getting physical with anyone.
I love being single, love my freedom but I get lonely more often than I can count on two hands. And everyone around me are in love (friends and family). I am happy for them but I often look at my hopeless situation.
7. I feel bitterness towards men
8. I haven’t had the best experience with men. I have been sexually harassed/raped, my dad cheats on my mom all the time since I was a little girl, my first boyfriend left me for someone else, was in a abusing situation and my friends with benefits hurt my feelings.
9. Reading and hearing about men doing women wrong makes me explode even more, especially dating today and how gross we treat each other.

I am ready to shake it all off and start trusting again. I have been single for four years. I can’t keep up with this sad love life. I have used my free time on myself and I have found my passion (self discovery). I am not ready to fully commitment yet even if I miss the intimacy the most (I am still young, and enjoying life), but I am done being mad at men. They deserve better and so does my soul.

Advice?

So this girl and I are both 20. Her name is Marissa. We have been friends since 7th grade and we got into a big blowout in December over a stupid trip to Disney. It was a 7 hour car ride. She didn’t want to make more than 2 stops, but I was the one driving. It was paid by her parents and for her bday gift. A couple months prior to this we kept getting into fights over stupid stuff. Pretty much really mean stuff was said from her to me, and she made a fake Facebook account putting her own family on blast but making it look like it was from me. It just ended on a very very bad note. I haven’t talked to her since December. Last night I got a random text out of the blue from a “friend” of hers although I think it might be her. I don’t know what she wants. I don’t even know if it would be a good idea to be friends with her because every time we got into a fight I would always be the one hurt. I was sick of fighting and that’s why I broke off the friendship. My family doesn’t like her anymore either. I always tried to accommodate her. The fight was stupid. What was said on my side and her side was hurtful and immature. I just don’t know what to do or what she wants.

I’m white and she’s blue. I haven’t responded back because I don’t know what to do.