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Here is the situation: You have been with your partner for 10 mths. You recently broke up for 3 weeks and have been back together for just 3 weeks also. The reason behind the split was due to your partners unhealthy lifestyle which was affecting the relationship in many ways namely they were being secretive and lying to you to cover up their issue.

Since getting back together your partner has made an active effort to get their life back on track and although it's only time that can help you learn to trust again you have been trying to be encouraging and supportive as well.

However your partner gets upset over something you say and overreacts and he refuses to try and see your point or even take on board how you feel. He then proceeds to sit at the dinner table with his 2 young kids, your young child and you but won't eat anything, instead he chooses to sulk, roll his eyes at you when you ask why he isn't eating and rudely state that he has lost his appetite.

He then once kids are in bed, goes to sit outside to ignore you for hours, you go out after a while to see if he wants to talk and he still refuses to see your point and just argues, raising his voice at you, swearing at you and telling you to fuck off. Bear in mind you don't live together and this is your home, him and his kids were just staying for the weekend.

You walk away because there is no point in continuing the argument. You go to bed, he eventually comes up and grabs his pillow from your bed and goes to sleep with his son on the spare bed instead.

You are so mad that he is acting this way after only being back together for 3 weeks that you decide to send him a text message :

I can't handle your Shitty attitude and I'm not interested in starting 2018 off like this, you ignoring me, shouting at me and telling me to fuck off in my own home so perhaps just go home tomorrow. Go and enjoy your New Years Eve with your kids, I will do the same with my daughter then their will be no further arguments.

I'm 23 and never had a boyfriend. The search is unsuccessful. In hs, I wasn't really noticed much. I was very reserved and lacked confidence. Still do. Didn't get asked out till my senior year through a friend of a friend. And then another one did. But I was too scared and didn't want to go through with it.

In college, I was taking courses primarily online. In my lecture courses, guys didn't really pay me any mind. I'm still taking my Bachelors degree online. And I've never really had many friends. I'm alone and feel pathetic/inexperienced.

I've lost weight to feel better about myself and attract a good looking guy. But either I'm not their type/don't show interest. I place so much emphasis on finding a boyfriend because I'm so insecure about myself and feel a relationship validates one attractiveness. As unhealthy as that sounds. Is that normal?

I don't think I come across as desperate. I'm very quiet and don't talk much. I am not abrasive by any means. I've tried online and it usually goes no where. They either want sex or it fizzles out. I feel I am going to end up alone. It's not so easy to just put yourself out there though.

If they say loves finds you, why hasn't it found me and everyone else's I know in my age group? I don't try anymore.