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I don't know why, but I'm just not into being in a relationship. I'm not fond of dating either...

I tried once and told the guy yes, then I broke it off in like 2 or 3 days.

We kept meeting up, but we always did our own thing. He was with his guys, and I was with my girls. We basically ignored each other or acted like we normally do when everyone's together. I'm actually glad.

I don't know why, but I just don't like relationships. I like friends with benefits better. I don't know why, I guess I just don't like the title. I'm a person that doesn't like to be tied down.

If you claim me, try to control me, or own me I run. I mean I can be in a relationship, but you have to let me come to you, and that's not easy. (I here that it's because I'm an aquarius but idk)

I'll hangout with my friends girls & boys everyday, and love to be together, but when it comes to a "Boyfriend/Relationship" I just don't like it. I don't know I guess it has something with not liking to get attached or having someone attached to me.

I don't like relationships because...

- I don't want to call/text you every minute, let alone day

-I don't want to see you everyday

- I don't like to throw the L word around

I like it better when I see someone I'm interested in every once in a while, and that's when the sparks fly! I can really feel the chemistry. I like to flirt, but just not RELATIONSHIPS!

Do you feel the same way? Why? Do you think you know why I feel like that? What's your story, opinion, or answer?

I met a man (24years old) who was from Germany - living in Australia.

He met a girl (23years old) who was his supervisor at a cinema he worked at.

They started going out and he eventually moved in with her.

He had been with her for 1.5year and then met me at the bar he worked at. I had no knowledge that he had a girlfriend and gave him my number.

We proceeded to get to know one another and then, he revealed he was attached. I directed him elsewhere until he became unattached.

He went on a 'break' from his girlfriend and we had a casual - lustful 'relationship/friends with benefits' arrangement.

As his friend, I suggested he give 'us' up and work on his relationship - he said he didn't want to - it didn't make him happy.

Yet somehow, living with her seemed to give him a sense of security. Even though they broke up eventually - they still live together 'seperate rooms'. It's been verified by his and her friends.

So my quetion is, why would he a) not want to touch her, b) not want to marry her, c) not want to work on the relationship and d) not want to walk away?

To me - that sounds like a relationship of convenience and sentimentality - not love. More like a good friendship and there's loyalty there.

Why waste your life?

End result: I broke off our casual encounter and met a lovely guy who I'm now in a relationship - and he is STILL in limbo.

I will never understand him or his choices. Seems very sad and strange to me. What a miserable life.