Search Results: is it love or infatuation

I know I know... it sounds ridiculous. I dislike this "hot and cold" attitude this guy has. It's been going on for 8 months now... I know he got busy in February and March so I backed off and let him sort things out. He's been doing well, and he was contacting me a decent amount end of March (no where near the daily texts or calls like the infatuation stage in the beginning), and I thought "Ok, now it's time for us to have fun again!"

Well, he hasn't contacted me much this month. I sent him a few texts wishing him well, and he would respond instantly maybe 2-3 texts then go silent. Ok, busy no problem I think. A week goes by so I call and get no answer. I wait to text, and he instantly replies, again with maybe 4 responses tops. I get a bit hurt, but ask him if he just wants to end this, I haven't been able to hang out with him or even talk really in months. He tells me no, he loves me, he cares deeply for me and wants to be with me. I said that I would appreciate a text a few times a week then and he said of course, anything for me. He posts and chats on Facebook a lot, so he doesn't seem "busy" to me.

It's been 9 days since I've heard from him. This situation has my stomach in knots. I do go out and keep busy, but I mean, he tells me he loves me, cares for me, wants to be with me but we aren't actually together or communicating... does this make sense to anyone? Any possible reason this might be happening? He's obviosuly not talking to me about it... I've told him this is making me confused and hurting my feelings. Actions speak louder than words and the actions are telling me he lost interest, but his words are telling me he loves me.

Side note: He isn't a player... that I know of. He wants one woman, and one woman only, although I know that could be just a line. I've known him for 5 years, and before me, he was loyal to his one girlfriend (who cheated on him and broke his heart, and I know he hates cheating/cheaters). I've had