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I’ve been talking to a guy for a while now, and we both have feelings for each other, but haven’t discussed when/if we wanna take things any further. Before I found out he felt the same way, I was leading on other guys, and hooked up (just making out) with one of them. I’m not proud of this, especially because I had feelings for him back then as well, they just weren’t as strong as they are now.

I’ve stopped messing with other guys and now he is my only focus, but I feel like I should tell him about what I did. Everything I did was just because I got really hurt by my ex, so in turn I started messing around with other guys’ feelings. After my feelings becoming stronger for him, I changed the way I acted. Now I regret everything I did/said to other guys. Should I tell him that I was doing this stuff while we were talking? Although I had no idea if he liked me back then, and my feelings weren’t as full on either.

Starting to talk to him I had the intention of only speaking to him just to get his attention, not to actually get feelings. But obviously I realised how great he is and eventually caught feelings.

Last time I had serious feelings for a guy, I ended up getting extremely hurt and in turn, began leading guys on and playing them just because I wanted attention. I feel horrible for doing this. I’m talking to a guy now, and I only recently stopped talking to other guys because of how serious my feelings are for this one.

After I got hurt, I went through a downwards spiral and really struggled. I never got proper help, so I’m terrified that if the guy I’m talking to now hurts me or if anything goes wrong, I’ll go through all of that again. It was most definitely the worst experience I have ever had. I’m not sure if he has feelings for me, although it does seem like he does (but I’m scared of asking). What would you do if you were in this situation?