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Okay, first, I'm moving next Friday and will owe my new complex $887. Each paycheck I get is about $1,262 but I have to pay the movers, owe my parents $300 for new brakes on my car (not really pressing, they said I can make payments), get my dog's teeth cleaned and some removed ($250), and I need to start buying new stuff to put in my classroom for the upcoming school year (4th grade teacher) plus I bought brand new furniture and a TV for my apartment.

Well, this is not sitting well with my friend, who is getting married next year. She wants all her bridesmaids to have our dresses before October, which is not happening simply because I do not have the finances for it. The dress she picked is $300 and the converse sparkly shoes (not kidding) are $150. She said that $450 is completely reasonable until I reminded her that I spent maybe $165 total for my outfit at my own sister's wedding a couple years ago (that outfit had a shawl, too, a whole extra piece and still over half the cost of what my friend wants).

But I'm not actually opposed to spending $450. I'm just opposed to doing it this instant, especially when the wedding is July 2019.

She said I'm being selfish and asked me how can I afford a $600 TV and $800 couch but not a $450 bridesmaid outfit. I explained to her the concept of 'payment' plans and that having a comfortable apartment is more of a priority than a dress and shoes I'm literally going to wear one time. Then she asked if my dog's surgery could wait.

Dunno, I don't feel like I'm being unreasonable, especially since her fiance is paying all of her bills since she works only two days a week and has massive debt (including a loan he has NO CLUE she took out). I don't have a lawyer fiance who is willing to pay for all my stuff while I try to figure out what I want to do for a living. I'm single and have to pay my own way.


Bills first. Pleasure later.

Let me clarify that this means the guy would NOT cheat and go get that from some other girl. I just feel that sex is expected to happen in a relationship now. I am someone who really wants to wait until marriage.

I’m a bit worried that I won’t find a guy that will respect this. I don’t plan on having sex with a guy even if we have been in a relationship for 2 years. I really want to wait until I’m married.

I am a 19 year old female and just wanted to know if anyone does think that it’s possible. Will a guy really be willing to wait that long without doing anything sexual and NOT cheat?

DISLCAIMER: I’m not saying people who don’t wait till marriage are bad people. We all choose how and when we want to lose our virginities, I’ve just chosen to wait.

If the person you are dating is not ready for sex, how long would you wait before you break things off?