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BACKGROUND:
No one except my immediate family and best friend knows that I have generalized anxiety disorder (GAD). It's something I'm really embarrassed about and have been dealing with since my early teens, privately. It's not social anxiety, so I get "triggered" over the most random things and thus is hard to avoid. Also, it comes and goes so I do well for a couple months till it goes bad again.

There's not many people out there I trust. In fact, I've never even told about it to people I had been dating. Unfortunately it always led to me not want to explain certain things, and them thinking I'm insane for reacting a certain way or not wanting to talk about certain (very simple) things.

MY ACTUAL QUESTION:
There's this guy friend of mine who I do trust immensely and I tell him a lot. We talk often and he's in love with me. We end up getting on stupid fights that many times I'm aware only happen or get bad because of how anxious (and therefore defensive and offensive to protect myself) I get. Last night I questioned him for saying something really sexual, and when he asked me if he wanted me to stop and if so why am I jealous of other girls, I ended up hyperventilating a lot and not making any sense. Then he got upset at me for just saying "bye" instead of a 'better' goodnight and I flipped so bad I left my phone and him talking to himself. I regret it immensely, I know I was irrational. But at times like that I literally can't bring myself to think properly and not freak out over nonsense.

I really wanna tell him, but I'm not really sure how to go about it. I'm a pretty down to Earth person normally and I don't want this to be a big deal and for him to look at me differently. If he were to walk on eggshells because of this I'd be devastated. I also don't want him to think I'm only telling him this to excuse some of my behavior. But at the same time, if we were to get in a relationship it's better if he knew? I don't know. What are your thoughts?
(sorry for the essay)

For example, if someone texts like:
him: hi how old r u? (we both said our ages)
got pics? (I have a profile pic and he's sent me a picture of him so it's not like we haven't seen any pics of each other)
- when I don't reply for some time because I'm busy, they go:
u there?
me: sorry, work. just finished.
him: got any pics?
me: pic for pic?
him: ok you first (usually the guy sends the first pic, that was my experience with these things)
- didn't reply again cause I was showering, having dinner, for about an hour, didn't read his message either -
him: u there?

God I immediately felt like deleting him right then. I know it's a Sunday and all, but I did have to work. Besides, one. fucking. hour. I think I don't want to keep talking to someone who constantly demands an answer almost instantly especially when this is the first day we talk.

Add the fact that he uses "u" and "r instead of typing the entire three-lettered word, makes him seem like stupid teen with no manners to me (he's 26, and and his first language is english). This is a pet peeve of mine. Makes you seem so uneducated.

Is it ok to think of him as an asshole, and dismiss him because of a reason like this? I just got the asshole vibe from these few texts, y'know... Met him online when I was looking for a friends with benefits, so I'm not looking for romance, but still.. I don't want to do anything with someone who talks like that.