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we were seeing eachother casually because he had just ended a seriously long term relationship, and the only one he has ever known. I ended it because I wanted more, but a while after he starts calling a lot, I ignore it, but finally answer. We start seeing eachother again and it is going really well, he seem somewhat distant, but is always so happy to see me, and I love the way he looks at me, right in the eyes. We talk about a lot together, and have both met eachothers closest friends. we do haves sex, but I feel like I am usually the one who initiates the kissing, and if I back away he assures me we don't have to have sex, almost every time he assures me of that. He still seems to not be ready for a serious relationship though, even though he has admitted caring for me and missing me deeply (he said that was why he called so much) I told him I want more, and he said he felt pressured, but he could see himself with me, it's just that he had been in what I know to be a very emotionally draining relationship. It still makes me feel like he thinks I'm not good enough or something. Whenever we hangout though, he always wants to do what I want to do, Always pays for dinners, picks me up and takes me home, etc. I just don't want to be that girl that gets played. Will he become ready to be serious if I take the pressure off?

We've been on and off for a while. I don't think he ever quite recovered from his first relationship that lasted nearly his entire young adult life, beginning when he was just 14 and ending in his early twenties. even though it's been a while, I think he is emotionally spent, like he just doesn't want to go there, doesn't want feelings, wants a "stress free" life and says I "stress him out" with relationship questions. this second time around I though things would be different because we both know why it ended before, we weren't official and he got jealous. He said some mean things about it, nothing outright insulting because he makes an effort to be a kind and caring person. after a long while of not talking again (told him not to) late night calls from in started coming in and increasing. I missed him and I thought he knew things had to be different this time or the same exact thing would happen. which it has, he can not commit, he keeps me at a distance. I ask for compromise but he says any compromise means relationship, which he can't do, with anyone. I was so surprised that he thought he could do this again, I told him I can't, he mean mean, cold, even though I was crying, and asking him to compromise and he told me "you've made your decision what is there to compromise." I told him to never call me again, I know from the past that that hurts him, the first time I said it he begged me not to. when I broke it off last night he acted cold, distant, and cruel in tone. Even beside all of this I've never had a better time with anyone and aside from this he was always so caring of me, attending things important to me, being there when I needed him. we know everything about each other. I still love him, but I can't be with some one who keeps me at a distance on purpose. I again told him not to call, but will he? could it ever be different?