What does she mean when She says I'm distant?

[Anonymous]

So I've been talkin to this girl for the last 3 months, I've know her for a few years now, recently I moved a way for college though so I don't see her. the first two months we talked morning to night daily now, She tells me she misses me one day and then the next day hardly talks to me, then the next day i'll go all day without a word to her and she texts me at night sayin she needs me emotionally and physically, so I talk to her and then the next day we don't talk at all really, a few words here and there. One week she brought up when we dated a few years ago she told me I was the only guy she has ever been head over heels for, and she would bring up memories of us and she told me she still wears the ring I gave her, and so for the whole week we talked a lot and then the next week she would tell me she missed me and that my chances of dating her when I come back are really good and that when I come back I've got a date with her, but then then the next few days she hardly says a word to me, even when I try to talk to her. She told me I've changed in the last few years, she said i'm sweeter and what not which she liked. But yesterday she told me I've changed in the last week, saying that I've been distant? I don't understand this, i'm kinda confused so what do y'all think?

[Insaan]

She wants to have sex which is not happening due to distant relationship.
The value seems to be fading day by day.
History has shown us that long distance relationship are highly unsuccessful.
Girls loose interest with time and they want the guys who are physically near her and available with her whenever ahe wants too.

[Insaan]

Also.. she will break up with you soon bro. Be prepared for the worst.

[Asker]

i'm not worried about her breaking up with me, I know how to get her back... just involves me being there with her, which i'm not. I feel like i'm tryin tape something together with the wrong side of the tape i'm just not getting anywhere

[Insaan]

Bro what happens is when a girl starts loosing interest, she looses it forever. You might not even know her half world. She may be crushing on someone else or she might have already looking for someone. She might even had physical relationship for sake of satisfaction who knows?
May be above assumption might be false still..
You cannot blindly trust on her. Neither she can trust blindly on you. This is the biggest irony of distant relationship.
This is the age where people can't compromise for distant relationship. Especially girls want a guy to be around her. You know bro how girls want or crave for attention at this age. Also girls lack understanding many a times.
Men can live happy with distant but not girls...
And i am sure.. you don't want to live with a girl who is not sure about this relationship, who has already shown the signs of fading interest.
No! You must not compro anything for her. It's your life and if she is not happy with your position, then better leav

[Asker]

I've always thought they lost interest, but to be honest with yeah dude I've never had a problem with a girl loosin interest ever this would defiantly be a first, but I hear what you're sayin man

[Insaan]

Yeah... it's your decision afterall. If you wanna give a try.. you can. Because you know her much better than me.

[Asker]

Honestly dude I don't even no where I stand in the situation anymore

[Insaan]

For how long you would be away from home?

[Asker]

well I've been a way from her for 3 years now, but she's always tellin me she needs me, misses me, wants me, brings up our past, sendin me those heart emoji things, and last week she was down, and I told her the truth and tried to make her feel better, and she told she loved me, and that's when things started to take a spin and I lost all the puzzle pieces but I've got another 2-3 years more to go before I can go back to live, I told her I was goin to try come see this upcoming summer and that made her happy

[Asker]

I've been away from hometown for almost 5 years now

[Insaan]

Yeah this is a strange situation. She might be really loving you. It is clear that she wants you to be around her. She is very much confused and don't know how to deal with this situation. As i said, the problem is distance.
It is making her very impatient. I cannot blame her at all man.
If you wanna solve this puzzle, try to meet her as early with in 10 days and ask her politely and FRANKLY STRAIGHTFORWARD if she wants to be with you or give a break or move on. Just ask her for opinion and request her for straightforward answer without being diplomatic.

[Asker]

Thanks bro i'm see what I can do to solve the puzzle

[Insaan]

Ur welcome :)

[LovesTVDx]

The you've not been there enough for her. You aren't opening up to her enough.

[Asker]

How do I open up?

[LovesTVDx]

Be honest about your feelings. She'll appreciate that. Good luck! :-)

[Asker]

i'll give it a try Thank you

[stac_y_ann]

Sounds to me like she is confused.

[Asker]

If she's confused then I am apparently way past confused, its like she got upset with me one night I hadn't talked to her much in the day and then she text me and we talked for a little bit but when I said I was goin to bed she got upset and told me I've been pusin her away, and since then I've tried to make it not seem like that

[stac_y_ann]

Confused because your away from her. She is at the point of not knowing to stay or move on because things are not the same or the way she wants it.

[Asker]

Ohh okay that makes sense, so what am I can do about her being confused? Do I keep tryin to talk to her? or attempt to give it a break for a few days and see what she says or what? i'm okay with not being with her... somewhat, I want her to be happy and have someone whos actually able to be there for her,