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I've been married almost 6yrs now but don't love my wife like I used to. We have 2 young children and at the moment that's why I'm hanging around. I tried to break things off a year ago but my wife had a massive breakdown!
Before we got married we had a few theeesomes with girls and kept having them after we got married. At our grocery store there was a girl who was a 10/10 I told my wife all the time she was my hall pass whenever she asked (wife's was Michael Buble) We moved areas and I added the girl from the store on FB and we started chatting, initially hoping for a threesome with her, however she wasn't into them. We kept chatting anyways which turned into everyday for a few months. She had a boyfriend so I pushed anything about hooking up. One day when my wife was away working I suggested she drive the 2hrs and hang out, half jokingly however she ended up coming over. The first time seeing each other for ages. We had a few drinks then ended up having sex all night then the next morning as well. We met up a few weeks later when I was in town again and had sex again. We both ended up telling each other that we both had feelings for each other but I couldn't give her what she needed right now (relationship) as I was still married. We still kept chatting most days until it turned into once or twice a week. We started again everyday for about 2 weeks now it has suddenly stopped. She is all I think about but we aren't talking. I've decided I am leaving my wife however that's a process! Also I didn't want supermarket girl to think I was just leaving my wife for her!
What should I do?
1. keep persuing supermarket girl even though she's ignoring all of my messages
2. Leave my wife (long process)
3. Stay with the wife
What would you do?

Years ago, I developed feelings for a friend. I let the romanticised thoughts of us having a relationship together build in my head to a point of obsession and eventually couldn't take it anymore. I told her my feelings; if only to get it off my chest.

She didn't feel the same but asked if we could still be friends. I agreed, though I was a little hurt at first and I fell into a depressive stint. Being rejected got me thinking: "I look for qualities I in a woman, but what can I possibly offer them?" At the time, I would have described myself as: depressed, tubby and no self esteem/ self confidence.

I joined a gym and started dieting. Lost a lot of weight and while I don't mean to brag, I finally feel confident due to my newly formed attractive body (less flab, more abs). I'm also a hell of a lot more motivated and out going than I once was. As for my friend, we would sometimes talk over the next couple of years; but only a few times. Nothing bad; we just didn't end up talking that much.

We recently started talking again and I noticed she seemed different around me than before. Eventually, she told me that she'd developed feelings for the "new me". (my words, not hers) and asked if I still felt the same? I told her I needed to think about it because... well... I'm not sure it's a good idea to date her...

On the one hand, I still have feelings for her and it would be a dream come true... But on the other hand, I spent years telling myself not to feed this obsession for her and to move on with my life; it was unhealthy and damaged our friendship. I've changed so much ( I think for the better) since I confided my feelings in her that I find myself asking if she's even really in love with me or my new sexy body and newly found confidence. Then again, isn't that why I made these changes: to seem more attractive to the opposite sex?

Do I give into my urges and have a relationship with her? Or do I continue to tell myself there's nothing there and we should both move on?