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Been 5 years i never said anything-i was too busy and other stuff but there has been no one else i wanted.

Now i'm finding it too painful just being friends, he has no clue. I consider if i'm going to move away from friendship ill lose him anyhow, so i might as well tell him just in case he feels it... I'm worried i'll regret it. I'm soooooo sick of worrying about it , and i don't feel right dating other guys while i feel this way... i want to move on with my life. This is not specifically about dating just getting it out there, first step. to say it or not.

Advice?

its easy to say yeah id day something or no way move on, when its some stranger, its really important to me- if you could THINK about it honestly, id appreciate it :)

(Flirting doesn't seem right a bit frivolous compared to how i feel but I don't know what category i can put this in.)

Hi, I'd like to know what you'll think (especially the guys). Also, I'll leave out details for privacy.

At the beginning of this year I met this man (a client of mine) online. I'm a language teacher. I worked with him and got along great, I was living in Europe at the time and am still married and he is in America (where I'm originally from). After many complicated days I ended up telling him I was running away from Europe from abusive husband. Long story short, he helped me without me asking, literally saving my life and got me to America. We kept working together and met up in person twice, he was great.

Ever since then, we keep doing this:

- Whatsapp EVERY single day (not romantically tho), it feels as though we'd miss each other if we ever missed a day.. that's my feeling though. If I don't write first, he writes first
- Since he helped me I told him I would never charge him again, he still insists, but I think he's given up, we talk on the phone about 4 times/wk for around 1.5 hrs each time (not romantically, teaching, but we laugh tons)
- He is very generous, always offering help, checking in on me - we share lots in common (food, politics, books, humor, etc)
- He laughs everytime I do, even before telling him whatever I'm thinking about (I'm very giggly)
- we read each others' book recommendations and talk for hours about them.

About a month ago he was very nervous and told me some very personal things (he really doesn't open much about his private life). He has a girlfriend, hardly ever mentions her (has about 3 times, 2 out of those 3 were not good things and he kept telling me "I hope you'll still talk to me after I tell you this/I'm sure you'll want to forget about me..", he says he wants to stop his relationship but has failed, not sure why he even told me, but is making me wonder. We never flirt, I'm resisting, not sure if he's resisting as well. I'm sure his girlfriend doesn't know about me.
My family and I are forever grateful for what he did for me...