So recently I've been seeing a couple of my takes on how to get women and what women like blah blah blah. Some of the stuff I've heard is just plain cringey. There was even a post a girl made trying to give us bros advice. Pure bullcrap. Listen men and boys. I heard a good analogy on this site. Fishermen(men) don't take advice from fish(women), sure they might say they want someone who's gonna handle them nicely with a warm and gentle smile, but they can't understand why they're attracted to expensive bait and a long rod. The point is, attraction is an emotion women feel and feel in different ways depending on the circumstance. That's why you don't ask women for advice. You ask men you know that are good with women. My mentor was my brother. He got loads of p*ssy back in the day and taught me all I know. Now it's time for me to pass my knowledge on. You ready boys? Cause I'm about to change your lives.
1. Looks
Okay, now I know people always say "looks don't matter, it's what on the inside" blah blah blah. F*ck that, that's pure nonsense. Of course looks freaking matter. You think a broad is gonna pass up a chance with ryan gosling or channing tatum? Hell no. Now I'm not saying that you need to look like them to have success, but you gotta be decent at least. This means cut the 200 lbs of excess fat, fix your facial hair, brush your damn teeth, and get you a fade from a black barber. If you are a black male especially you better have a clean fade and hairline before I whoop your *ss. Now I"m no ryan gosling, but I'd say I'm at least above average. My face isn't perfect, but it's passable. My physique and height is what puts me above average. Find a way to make yourself look like the best version of yourself, whether that's pumping iron, dressing better, or taking care of hygeine and you'll be solid.
2. Social Proof
Now, if you're in college or high school this is where the chicks come in. Women are attracted to guys with power. In a setting like college or high school this means the popular guys who everybody likes. That's why you'll see women fawning over celebrities who only look average at best, it's the social status they have. Now, to use this to your advantage you need to be more outgoing and actively make friends and broaden your social circle. Back in the day, I was one of the more well-known guys in my school because I was a good athlete and I was friends with most groups of people. This led me to meeting more girls and having girls who already thought I was attractive or liked me before I even knew them. Let's use parties as an example. I know all of you young guys are going to go to parties in college and are gonna wanna get layed, but if you stick yourself on the wall and only talk to your friends, you'll be like p*ssy repellent. The moment you get into a party the first thing you do is check the scene, see who you already know there and who you don't. Introduce yourself to the girls and guys there and dance and have fun. When you do this, the girls will see you as "that guy", you guys know what I'm talking about and they'll already have some interest in you. All you have to do is introduce yourself. This also works in classes in the beginning of the year when you're just meeting everybody and no one knows each other. Be the guy to go talk to people and make friends. I am telling you that the girls WILL take notice.
3. Confidence
I know you bastards have heard this before. Being nice wins games, but confidence wins scores in the bedroom. I can't evens stress how important this is. IF YOU ARE SHY OR INSECURE THE GIRLS WILL NOTICE THIS. How can you get others to like you if you don't even like yourself? You must be confident. You must be like conor mcgregor or Ali and think you're the hottest shit in there wherever you go and that all the girls think you're attractive. When you flirt with a girl, don't even bother thinking "does she think I"m attractive". Fuck that. Assume she does already. Even if she doesn't it's not like there's any way you change it. Girls absolutely LOVE confidence and if they can feel your confidence radiating on them, they will instantly think you're an interesting guy. No girl wants that shy guy who can't even maintain eye contact. Whenever I've asked girls what they liked about me the most common answer was my confidence and they say it's something they notice a lot. So guys, stand tall with your head up and chest out and you'll be good.
4. Personality/Sense of Humor
To have success with women you can not be boring. I repeat YOU CAN NOT BE BORING. Now I'm not saying you need to be a clown or crazy or anything but you can't be a dry wall with no emotion and no enthusiasm. You need to be charismatic. If you can't hold a conversation you won't get anywhere. And if you're not a fun guy you won't be able to build social proof because no one will want to be your friend. Now you want to know how not to be boring? Develop a sense of humor and be a funny guy. This has worked extremely well for me. I'm a naturally goofy *ss dude so this comes naturally. I joke around with my brothers all the time and the comedy has come naturally. If you're not naturally funny don't worry about it. Spend some time watching stand up comedians like Chris Tucker, Bernie Mac, Eddie Murphy, Jimmy Carr, or anyone that's funny. Overtime it will start to rubb off on you and you can even use some of their jokes when talking with people. You'll also start to become more witty. Also get good with telling funny stories lol. Kevin Hart and Chris Tucker especially always crack me up. To sum it all up, just relax and have a good time. Learn how to be funny and keep a conversation interesting and it will work wonders for you guys.
5. Body Language
Not a whole lot to say on this one. Just make sure you're standing up tall and not slouching. Make sure you're speaking like a damn man and don't move like a spazzy cringey 12 year old who's never seen a pair of t*ts before.
6. Flirting Part 1: Push/Pull
Alright, now for the slightly tougher part, the flirting. This is how my brother taught me to be with women and I didn't even know it had a name until yesterday lol. So push pull is basically when you compliment a girl, then tease her and make fun of her in a lighthearted way. This works AMAZING because it shows the girl you're confident and not afraid of her and you can be funny at the same time. It also works because it makes her feel like she's looking for you approval when you tease her and take her off the pedestal. A recent example when I used this was when I was at a party and I was talking to a tall girl(almost my height in heels 6'2) who was smoking hot. We were really into it and flirting when I said "look, i think you're pretty cute but you're too short for me" with a slick smile on my face. The look on her face was priceless. She was surprised that a guy would tease her like that especially after I threw a compliment at her. For the next half hour or so she was basically begging for my approval and from there I knew she was hooked. Another girl who was in my class, I'd talk to her but not show much interest because I wasn't initially interested in her and it seemed to drive her nuts lol. She'd go way out of her way to strike up a conversation with me about the most simplest of things! Women like a guy who doesn't put them on a pedestal and who they have to chase. It flips everything in reverse. But be careful. You don't want to be too mean and hurt your chances in the process.
7. Flirting Part 2: Body Language
Now, before the feminists start disliking I'm just going to clarify. DO NOT TOUCH IF SHE IS NOT FEELING YOU AND IS NOT RECEPTIVE TO YOU. UNDERSTAND? Now let's continue. Touch is a powerful tool when flirting. Especially in a party type environment or a concert where everyone is close. However, there's a fine line between flirting and creeping. Basically, touching is the way you escalate an interaction. If you're flirting with a girl and vibing it should feel natural to touch. But if you spend 30 minutes talking to a girl and you have about a 3 foot distance between the two of you you will get nowhere without escalating physically. Start with accidental touching, like say your hands brush past her when you reach for something, or your knees touch or something. Then move on to small and subtle touches like touching her shoulder when you two are laughing and vibing. Touching works best in a dancing or party environment because you can just dance with them and you'll already be used to each other's touch. After push pulling for a while and if the two of you are vibing you should move closer to the girl and hold strong eye contact while continuing to flirt and vibe. You can tell if she's waiting for a kiss by her body language. If she's playing with her hair, scooting closer, looking at your lips a lot, or licking her lips, it's go time boys.
And that's the gist of it bros. It's really not that complicated when you get down to it. It just takes a bit of practice and getting used to. I'm no PUA or anything like that but these things have give me TONS of success with girls throughout high school and now in college. So take notes and good luck bros. Oh and one last thing, DON'T JUST READ THIS AND DO NOTHING LIKE A P*USSY. GO OUT AND ACTUALLY TALK TO WOMEN DAMMMIT!!!!!
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