How to Get a Girlfriend (as Requested by the Guys!)

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How to Get a Girlfriend (as Requested by the Guys!)

This myTake was recommened the most in one of my recent questions, so I'm going to cover it for all the guys who might appreciate it. Note I took about 20 websites of info, personal experiences, and peer advice and threw it into a pool of good vibes so don't forget to tell me if anything I included helped!

These days, finding a girlfriend is hard so before we even get into how to get one, let's talk about why it's so diffucult in the first place. One thing for sure is people aren't out as much as they were before, if you have a small social circle this applies to you the most. You can't meet a girl without going out your way to finding one and without many friends or connections, you have to start from scratch which takes a lot of invested time and there isn't even a guarantee you'll find one still. Another problem is expectations people are placing for their potential love interests are unrealistic or just over the top. Porn really disorient the way you look at sex and relationships all together. After awhile guys start looking for someone who fit the expectations he recieved from pornstars, movie actors, and insta-girls. Unlike a movie, in real life it takes time for you to love someone and for them to recipient those feelings back if they ever do. Consider those as something that can be making things harder for you.

Now that we got that out of the way let's talk about women themselves, don't worry, we won't take too long. Females appreciate the guys in their relationships, at least the healthy ones, and they have a natural instint to nurture and care for the ones they care about, this is widely known but it's actually true, women are more emotional than men, a woman's facial expressions are more animated and easier to see through than a man's. Knowing facts like these can help you know how a girl can react to certain situations, topics, settings, etc.

Where do I meet the girl?

This is the part you've been waiting for the most right? Let's talk about places you can find a lady just wandering about. A bus stop is a great place to go if you need to get somewhere and want to meet someone new at the same time. Chances are you'll find a sweet looking girl waiting for the bus or next to an empty seat. Be careful though, especially late at night or early in the morning she could be tired and not want to deal with you and you should respect that. A store that is mainly targeted toward females is obviously another good place to start, you might feel alittle out of place but if you have good confidence and think you could catch someone's attention without being creepy, go for it. Examples of this are: Hollister, Old Navy, Garage, Hot Topic, Forever 21, Areopostale

One more place that'd be good to find single ladies is a college campus, yours perferably. If you don't go to college you can always offer help to a girl who seems to be lugging something around or start a convo about her classes if you just happened to be walking near a school(Know that I'm not telling you to drive up to a campus eyeing a girl you can talk to, that's pretty creepy).

HELP! I'm bad at talking to girls...

If you want to get a girl interested in you, you have to talk to her of course. You need to break down the psychological barriers you put around yourself, past relationhips might play in the way you try to approach a girl but remember, she is someone you haven't met before(most likely) she isn't the ex who cheated on you or the girl who used you for a specific benefit, she's just her. Correct your posture to present yourself as more confidient guy and keep eye contact when you first approach. When she locks eyes with you don't look away which will show your passiveness take the challange head on and remain unphased. To start an actual conversation you need to say soemthing that isn't overly used that it's boring but isn't so personal it kind of scares her away. Try starting with "Hey my name is (your name) why are you here?" "Wow I love your style could you pick out clothes for me?(humorous) "I'm looing to meet new people, can you be apart of that?". Show her that you are into her and you want to see her again, things like this can score you a number. Remember if it doesn't seem she's active don't loose your enthusiasm and be persistint after the first encounter if you have any contact with her(unless she tells you she isn't interested herself).

Ok she knows I exist but how do I move things along??

You just have to keep her in the loop at this point. To escalate an acquaintance into a lover or even a good friend you have to spend time with them. Little things matter, ask to take her out on a fun and friendly date to a resturant, ask her what kind of movies she likes and take her out to one a week later, even ask if you can come over and hang out without any secret intentions, text her as much as you can(without having her be an unhealthy amount of your time) and do this for as long as you have to. Inevitably, either she will never go any further with you or you both are comfortable enough in your relationship for you to establish a romantic tie with her. Be with her as a friend and person she needs be that man, but don't treat her so friendly she'll only think of you platonically and friendzone you. Basically you need to be around enough that she gets used to your company but be able to leave her be long enough that she will unconsciously want to see you. Don't think about it too hard because after this time period both of your likng for eachother is all that can change the outcome of how your question goes. You can't do much after this point so try your best to establish a healthy balanced relationship.

What question am I supposed to bring up when I'm ready and how?

When you are the most comfortable with eachother and you think you are involved with eachther enough to ask, plan out a date where you spend all your time with them, don't do it out of the blue without planning with her first and letting her know you want to hang out. Do something with her that you know she likes to boost the likelihood of the date being a success. When getting ready to ask her for a relationship you must keep a positive atmosphere. As tempting as it is to look down at your hands or feet, keep your chin up and keep a good posture to convince her and yourself that you are confident. Remember eye contact is very important smile and tell her how much you enjoy being with her after awhile of back and forth, she'll probably know what you'll ask next, you just have to choose the way you ask it. "Do you want to be my girlfriend?" "Want to go out with me?" "I want to be more." are good ways of asking her out, of course you could always think of something to ask yourself.

After this whatever happens next correlates with how you've made her feel the time you spent together, how she made you feel, and the chemistry between you two. I wish you luck and hope you got something valuable out of my take comment anything I might've missed and goodluck!

How to Get a Girlfriend (as Requested by the Guys!)
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