I've seen this question so many times, and I might respond to everyone at once with this MyTake, maybe being a Woman myself, my perspective is more accurate and welcome in this case, obviously not all might agree, but it's acceptable.
I will try and share some personal thoughts that might help somebody, more or less, it's up to you if you want to apply them, and if you are willing to.
And obviously, every other woman is welcome to help these men out that are looking for a steady relationship, share your thoughts and what do you really expect from a man that will make him boyfriend material !!
Trust me, these are simple.
Be helpful
It might be your crush, or a random girl/woman carrying something heavy, I would love it if somebody would help me out with my heavy grocery bags. Just be generous and kind. It's something that you should do instinctively, it can even be a very old woman, by helping her, somebody will watch and fall in love ;) when you do a good deed, don't expect things in return, do it because you are human first, and maybe she will give you your number. So why not trying, and plus you work those muscles out ...
Stop trying to get a girlfriend
The first step to getting a girlfriend is to stop trying. Instead go into every new interaction you have with women expecting nothing in return. This goes same to Women as well, predicting things is not even funny, why not get surprised ? Let things happen the natural way and enjoy your life in the meantime, don't put this as your priority.
Be comfortable on your own
Just be loose, don't put this as your priority, be natural and enjoy life while being single, try to make good friends rather than a girlfriend, if you always have this goal in your mind whenever you meet somebody, you might come out as desperate, and it will backfire most of the times, and I'm sure you're not desperate so CHILL. Making good friends with women will help you practice holding conversations with them.
Be yourself
There is a double reason behind it, Women want a challenge, so when a guy comes along who isn’t afraid to speak his mind and disagree with women it shows he’s a guy worth talking to, and it attracts us Women more, if you agree with everything she says or does, we will notice it right away, and it will turn us off. And the best reason to be yourself is also because you will feel more relaxed and you don't have to act in order to pursue something, be yourself, because who you are is brilliant, and you might even find a real thing in common with that girl that you didn't even expect to. Just relax like i said, be loose, and get yourself surprised.
No excuses
Before you approach her get rid of any other excuses that are stopping you in your tracks, for example, assuming she won’t be interested in you if you’ve never had a girlfriend. Don't be afraid to fail, everyone does, you can't always win in life. Try it, if you don't try you will never know. Don't make excuses, 'she's probably in a relationship', 'she is on her phone' or 'she is jogging', 'Man I look so bad', if she is in a relationship that's the first thing women usually say, in that case, just say hey i was just looking for a friend, so you will still not look bad if that's what you care about ( and you should not feel like you look bad trust me, us women don't care about that) Believe it that there is no valid excuse to not talk to her. At worst she would say 'no' and walk away. Every first time is a little weird, but after the third, this will be easy. You have to try again and again to get good at this.
Vocal Cords & Body Language
As you’re talking to her make sure you keep smiling and lean a little backwards so you’re not all up in her face, keep a distance. Hold eye contact and tell her why you simply had to come say hello, use downwards vocal inflection, don't make needy requests, just be LOOSE, ask her if she has ever been to that lake next to that town, and tell her that she reminded you of somebody who usually goes there. Sometimes just finding excuses to talk to somebody is not considered lying or not being Yourself, it's just finding a smart way to break the ice, since most of us women are picky in how Men who approach us choose the words, the voice tone, the body language, and confidence, be accurate and gentle with your words, and sexy and harsh with your voice.
Compliments
Tell her exactly why you approached her and be as specific if you can. Use the first think you noticed about her that attracted you. If you know the girl and you seen her different times and let's say she wears her hair differently, or she wears a colorful shirt, tell her how you love it because it make her eyes look beautiful, and if she’s a stranger and you meet her during the day, it can even be in a grocery store, be like: “Hey, I know this is random but I just walked past you and thought I have to go back and talk to that girl". But if you meet her in a bar there’s no need to mention any awkwardness. Just “Hello” or “Hi, I saw you from across the bar.” is enough ... and analyze her reaction.
Tease her
In this case, if would suggest you to tease a woman that you already know, or if you already managed to get a date with her, i call it the tension relief tease, it's the best according to me, and it works this way: if a girl says she likes cats you can say “Wait…you’re a cat lady? How many cats do you have? If it’s more than 9 we’re not gonna work out”. In the split second it takes for her to realize you’re just teasing (and not insulting her so accompany this tease with a nice smirk) she experiences a massive feeling of euphoric relief. That feeling is usually accompanied by laughter, It shows her you’re a not afraid of risking confrontation and that she can rely on you to stick to your beliefs and tell the truth. You’re a protector not a pushover. This is actually one of my favorites, and how my man won me over.
The best thing about all of the above is that, all of you are able to do this, all of you have the capacity to apply these sort of silly rules to make it easier for you to approach women, sure if I invited you to read this MyTake and you didn't need this help, I'm Glad, but give your brothers some more ideas on how to approach and how you do it instead of bashing me for inviting you .. (I noticed this is happening more for whatever reason)
I have more tricks, and if you need to know more, request another part of this MyTake and I will do it.
Disclaimer: These are some tricks that have been used on me, and honestly, they worked, as I am very very very picky in general, and I'm not talking about looks but about the ways of approaching me, i figured it is easy to track a guy who is not being himself, and who is just lying about his whole identity, as in, dude, don't worry I also like Pokemon, no need to force yourself to sell me that "look at me I'm a player guy because that's how you like it" thing... no... don't do that, just be yourself, that's what we like, and some will HATE the way you are, but i guarantee you 100%, that a few will actually ADORE YOU, because let's face the truth, not everyone will like you, not even family members, this is called being human :)
Thanks for reading, and I am glad as always to hear your thoughts about this, and to share more tricks to help our single fellas, or just your experiences.
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How To Get A Girlfriend -Tricks and Tips- By Natured
Nice tips! i agree for the most part! "Stop trying to get a girlfriend" "Be comfortable on your own" "Be Yourself" These are basics in my opinion.
If people males and females both finally understand that relationship and hanging with an opposite gender in terms of romance is not a life necessity nor a priority. Many other issues regarding this subject will be solved automatically. Instead, pursuing a life and setting up primarily goals that will lead to interacting with people and eventually click with someone that the gravity and chemistry pulls the parties in.
A relationship never should be a goal. A goal is must be founded according to the successes, achievements, establishments, education and careers. The goal must be this path of realization, our purpose of living, who we are, who we want to become, where we want to go and what kind of mark we want to make during our lifetime. Middle of that road, we'll find our partner automatically before we even notice. Among the people who suppose to be related to us in the right place, in the right time according to the path that we have chosen in our life. This way many other issues such as lying, faking, confidence etc. . could potentially be fixed.
Not to live this cycle of eat, internet, sleep, then borrow this shirt, lend that car, lie about the houses you have, wear fake accessories on yourself and set up past-life stories in order to impress and going to bar every Saturday night trying to hook up with someone randomly. Also no understanding of psychology and philosophy of life, no communication skill and charisma, poor scale of vocabulary, no education on body language, human behavioral functions and it's differences between male and female! no certain education nor career! nothing! (physical cares aside) Then also complain why i can't get girlfriend/boyfriend or why it doesn't last long!
I think generally speaking some nice tips. The only problem i see from a guys point is "How". How does one just do these things.
I believe there's the true hunky guys that almost need no game and will get thousands of girls and as we move down the scale from 10 to 5 you need more and more "game"
Stop trying to get a girl: This advice is spot on, The problem it's very high level. Mr 10 naturally doesn't try because the girls try and Mr 5 tries all the time. Notice however how Mr 10 presents himself. His out having genuine fun talking about boy things. As soon as you divert your attention from girls and have some good laughs this makes you less desperate. If you out to "find a girl" you end up staring, not talking, not having fun.
Be comfortable on your own: This goes in with above. Alpha males are natrually confident (i. e. comfortable on there own). Alpha males have no need to impress, they are by default impressive. This means, walking and standing tall, well groomed, well dressed.
Being yourself: This takes practise. Start with a drink or 2 (not drunk) and practise (till you need no drinks). More practise = more being yourself.
No Excuses: Let me just point out the "I have a boyfriend"; "well that's fine I was just looking for a friend". We don't want to be friendzoned, and actually we are looking for a girlfriend. As she pointed out have some good comes back, be the alpha male. Remember alpha males aren't afraid of rejection. "I have a boyfriend"; "Well isn't it such a pity you gonna be breaking his heart soon"
Compliments: Remember to follow it up with a reason (reasons make it more genuine) "I love your eyes, they are have such a striking blue that you never see"
Teasing: Very hard topic. But to add on remember teasing is creating just that little bit of doubt that you are a sure thing. "A sure thing" = desperate. "you're a cat lady?", notice the example you are joking, but for girls it does trigger the question "Surely he isn't really worried i'm a car lady" and that triggers the pursuite. Teasing is also about creating "tension" (yes that type) but the guy needs to take control "I'm coming in for a kiss, oh no wait actually not, i just noticed your nice earring" with a big naughty grin.
Hello beautiful... I was hoping if we hit it off I could invite you over for a nice seafood dinner. I would catch lobsters myself, with my bare hands, from the nearest waters that inhabit them, which is the tank at the Red Lobster down the street. I would cook them for you in my kitchen... naked if you desire. Then we would indulge in the lobsters, along with any side dishes you would like, and a few glasses of wine from my cellar. Over dinner we could chit chat a bit, you could discover that I am more than just a guy with the physique of a greek god, and I could discover that you are a smart, sweet heavenly blessed beauty just putting on a calloused facade. If you enjoyed my company then perhaps we could do it again if not then you leave with a stomach full of good food when otherwise on a night like that you would throw one of your Lean Cuisines in the microwave and watch Oprah. I mean, we could hit it off really well, end up having a few drinks, next thing you know you're giving me your number because I'm too shy to ask for it, I finally get up the nerve to call and we take in a movie, have that dinner, I relax, you relax, we go out a few more times, get to know each other's friends, spend a lot of time together, then finally get past this sexual tension and really develop this intense sex life that is truly incredible, decide our relationship is solid and stable, so we move in together for a while, then a few months later get married, I get a promotion, you get a promotion, we buy a bigger house. You really want kids, but I really want freedom, but we have a kid anyway, only to find that I am resentful, the sparks start to fade and to rekindle them we have two more lovely kids, but now I work too much to keep up with the bills, have no time for you, you're stressed and stop taking really good care of yourself, so to get past our slow sex life and my declining self-confidence I turn to an outside affair for sexual gratification. You find out because I'm careless and a lousy liar, you throw me out (justifiably so) and we have to explain to the kids why mommy and daddy are splitting up. That's just too sad. Think about the children. For God's sake, if you chat with me and we hit it off, let's just keep it sexual, because we both know where it's going.
as you as one girl, can speak for all women in the world, of course your thoughts are completely reliable. *IRONY OFF*
Every young man, should think about taking your advise or getting advise from other men who have actually had a few realtionships. It is statistics, when you want to know about something, you can take one experience of one expert or your take a dozen experiences (or more) from semi-experts or amateurs.
When you want to buy a car, what is more important to you the oppinion of one design engineer or the oppinions of people who have actually driven it and several others for comparison?
The advise given above is a one-way road to become a nice little push-over mangina.
When females try to tell heterosexual males how to attract women, one woman can only tell what she (not all, not even a majority, not even multiple, but she only) finds attractive in a guy.
I have slept with some women, I have had a few LTRs and one marriage and I call that advice given above out as being a guaranteed way into long-term misery for any young man.
Just look at the first animation, do you realy think he will be happy, with a broken back? She will be, but this shows her priorities, her main objective is to give all the burden to the man, so her life becomes easier. I'd call that quite selfish and unfair. If she would be at all interessted in his well-being, she would give him a share of the parcels, not all of them. A woman who will put all her burden upon a man, treats him like a mule. Now one has to ask, how much respect and love does one show to a mule? Do you want a partnership or an owner? (there are people who are into this BDSM, "mistress-and-slave" thing and that's fine with me, whatever makes them happy, but it is definetly not my cup of tea).
I'm surprised so many women *say* this is good advice, lol. It's a combination between the same generic (i. e. unhelpful) shit women always say (stop trying, be yourself) and pretty bad advice. And a lot of guys know that's the case.
Personally, I don't want you teasing me (teasing is a 50/50 thing with women and is also based on doing it just right with that 50% who likes it, which makes it too risky), and I don't want you coming up to me telling me you are interested in me because of my ass or because I seem shy and quiet and you think shy/quiet girls are freaks in the bed and more submissive in a relationship (apparently, women don't understand these are the things that go through men's heads when they see attractive women). I agree on the tip of being helpful to me, but other than that you better act like the biggest gentleman on the planet and be all about my eyes, intelligence and sense of humor with the compliments, lol.
This MyTake is dedicated to THOSE gentleman, hence, i only directed this one at men who don't look at those specific things you mentioned. So, if it's unhelpful to you, it might be helpful for others, this does work, at least in my country, when real gentleman apply these "rules" or any of them, in some cases it might work.
Clearly if there was really a way or some kind a lesson to get a girlfriend i don't think it will be shown in public.
Seems nice advice but is this not the thing we actually really do in life. You teach something that we do most of the time. I can count all this and even more that i do with girls.
The real thing is have fun and enjoy life.
No excuses for real? Like i don't have my own life to worry about. Like work, bills, hobby's. Sure girls are important! But really this is getting out of hand. Advice's on other stuff are okay! Still i say no to advice on how to get a girl.
Why would any man spend time learning on the internet how to get a girl and not go out and get on for real? Is it that hard lol.
"Tell her exactly why you approached her and be as specific if you can. Use the first think you noticed about her that attracted you."
*walks up to a girl and holds eye contact* Hey, I had to come up to you because I saw the way your yoga pants hugs your perfectly formed ass and I just thought "my god I gotta fuck this broad" and now that I'm up here your tits aren't bad either. You remind me of this hot porn star i saw. Hopefully your tits are real, otherwise we might not work out. * playful wink* I'm not really interested in a relationship and just wanna be friends-with-benefits so how about you give me your number and we'll set some shit up.
Something tells me your advice won't work in this situation. Not saying your advice is bad, just that its more limited than you're letting on.
South America, same thing. One of my girlfriends from Colombia is married to a boy who literally whipped out his guitar and serenaded her... the day they met. 😂
@redeyemindtricks no way! I gotta start walking around randomly with my guitar more. Too bad my singing voice is atrocious! I'd probably be arrested for disturbing the peace haha
@redeyemindtricks I guess, it only works for us... these tips and tricks might not work in another country, gosh, I wish i could give a lot of women out there some italian warmth :D
1.) Be helpful That depends on so many factors, it might as well not even be on this list.
2.) Stop trying to get a girlfriend {...} Be comfortable on your own This is unfortunately quite true. It's the great irony of attracting a partner.
3.) Be yourself Yep. For a lot of guys it kind of ties into the last two as well.
4.) No excuses Agree.
5.) Vocal Cords & Body Language I'm really close to just stopping here because your Take is basically an echo chamber at this point.
6.) Compliments Those never worked for me, to be honest. Oh well.
7.) Tease her Now THAT'S what I'm talking about! Some good old fashion button pushing. Even better if she ends up trying to slap me (key word "trying"). So cute. xD
Woah, guys, I seriously am shocked, maybe because we all have different mentalities but... i'm talking about women in Italy, this actually works... i seriously have no idea with what freaky woman y'all are surrounded with... i just don't... why did I even make this MyTake
Well, I mean, I grew up close to the ocean, and one of my girlfriends even works at the new desalination plant in Carlsbad... so, my reaction to that one is (and has always been) "well duh, you can't drink salt water... obvi" 😂😂😂
Yeah I get the point, I'm just being an asshole lol
Girl who messin around wit sweet ol you... They can get these G@G hands.. LOL.. But, LOL @ the second gif.. That was funny.. And yeah, this is just about coo.. I really don't know how to be anybody else but myself.. I mean I hold some stuff back, but never put on a facade.. I feel a can make easy friends with girls because I like to joke, tease, and banter.. I guess being around my mother so much caused that.. Good take..
None of these traits are going to help a guy to get a girlfriend. First they lack social skills or general empathy of others. Second, They think they are entitled to any girl just cos they are a man with a penis. Third, any sociopath and rapists can possess these traits anyway but for a bad intention anyway, these traits can learnt. Fourth, egoccentricity and self pity is a turn off. Fifth, introversion is a real turn off if they just keep quiet or clueless on how to engage with people.
... Where in the hell do you live woman? this is too much negativity for one single woman... Sorry, but maybe because these things work in my country I am analyzing this and it might be that what works in Italy it would not work in other countries, i don't know, but this is the only explanation i can come with... This is so weird and I kind of regretted that i made this MyTake but thanks for your... comment. Have a wonderful day.
@Love_Is_Eternal You are a bad example of a man, you should never ever offend a women like this, you my friend lost all my respect at once. Have a nice day.
Yeah you're right. Your basic guidelines might work for guys who are willing to consider those tips without mental issues. It's still a good take written out anyway. Sorry i gave you the wrong impression.
Im just stating my biased opinion that it won't work for those guys who are clueless, lack self empowerment, deadbeat drunks and too lame especially in Gag!!! 🙂🙃☺️😊
Your opinion is accepted honey anyways, it's just, sometimes i get furious when people don't focus on the BASIC TOPIC but they talk around, talk about other things, as in WELL AN IDIOT won't ACCEPT THESE RULES, when clearly this is dedicated to nice men, who actually do exist and there are plenty of them around :D
By the way, i've been called a slut if you check up, what for? Because i'm trying to help a brother out... and exactly that species does not even deserve to read this...
I like this except I have 1 HUGE flaw that cannot be fixed without several thousand dollars: I have 2 missing front teeth. Smiling is N-O. Even with all the other tips, a guy with bad teeth could NEVER get a girlfriend. Which is so pathetically sad and depressing for me because I've asked about all other flaws on this site and the only flaw women would never look past is bad teeth.
So yes, dating is hopeless for some men: the men with bad teeth.
"Women want a challenge, so when a guy comes along who isn’t afraid to speak his mind and disagree with women it shows he’s a guy worth talking to, and it attracts us".
But, I don't want to be a misogynist :(
How can I approach a girl without being a part of rape culture? Please help me :(
? THIS HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH RAPE? Why do some of you guys over analyze this... please, try to understand at least a little... i did not say to go HAUNT WOMAN LIKE WILD IDIOTS...
One point I wanted to make clear: How are we supposed to be ourselves if there are tips, that won't make me feel like myself? Some of these tips are overriding being myself. i1.kym-cdn.com/.../355sec.jpg
Also, I get turned off by women being on their phone longer than with me.
Very good! "Stop trying to get a girlfriend" is about the best advice. So many make getting the girl such a high priority, that they have no life otherwise.
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I don't mean to antagonistic but this is the same advice I see over and over again that just doesn't work in practice. I can already get girls, but I know from experience that even following everything you laid out here will only slightly improve your chances of getting a girlfriend/getting laid. I can go up and talk to any girl, no matter how hot and be confident and smooth as fuck while doing it and while I may have more success than the average guy, I still get brushed off most of the time. Why? Because if the girl is hot, she most likely has enough confident, smooth guys after her already, so you wouldn't stand out at all.
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I hope my comment gave you a better understand of the situation, take owner.
Natured is from Europe, girls over their have more appreciation for gentlemen then girls in the US. So many times a guy will do just what you described, only for her to keep returning to her loser boyfriend with no car no job and probably abuses her.
All things aside, I think doing the things you mentioned is really the best thing you could do. Eventually you'll run across a girl who appreciates this kind of thing since she will be a very high quality person if she goes with this kind of guy in my opinion.
@red324 this confirms the fact that American girls are always the ones that attack me here... i hate generalizing but if i would make a statistic on who bashes me more, 80% would be American chicks, but SOME do really get along with me and i love them <3
i think people should stop telling people to enjoy their life without a relationship. if someone wants things you only get in a relationship than they are not enjoying their life without a relationship. that is what enjoying life means to a lot of people., bc physical affection and or sex are extremely important to some.
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