I've had gfs and f***buddies, its not like I've been alone forever. I just feel like none of them ever take me serious. I can be really compassionate and sweet. I don't act like a player. I'm not sure if I could even if I wanted to but sometimes I wish I could. I just get nervous around girls I really like and can't seem to make a move to show them. and most just don't seem that into me. maybe I'm looking in the wrong places idk. Why are girls into all the jerks? Do girls like shy guys?
I've gotten better! I'm really talkative and girls seem to think I'm funny which I've just started to notice and use to my advantage :) I can talk to girls more easily now. and only my vibes remain shy. I got hooked up with a really mean girl a while back. who treated me horribly...but had the courage to end it. I don't know what she liked about me but she hated my shyness and intentionally intimidated me. then put me down for not being "outgoing".
but more recently I've got a new girlfriend who is incredibly shy. I do all the talking lol. I mean all of it. she's so sweet and adorable :) I really care about her.
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Perhaps your body language suggests you are closed off - and therefore difficult to approach. Do you cross your arms a lot? Do you find keeping a distance between people when you are sitting down? When you are introduced to someone, do you just "hi" and then stop focusing on them as you continue talking to a friend - or do you try to include them in the conversation? Even with a little bit of eye contact. When you sit down, do you sit back and stretch your legs out (this posture is sometimes really cocky). Do you stand with your chest pushed out (this also shows a bit of cockiness). Do you turn your body and face when someone is speaking to you. Show a little bit of expression when they talk (ie. Slight smile, shining/blinking eyes) or do you look utterly bored? Do you use your hands a little bit when you talk? - People are going to approach if you show 'positive' body language. That is key. You don't have to sit their with a huge smile on your face, but try to take observe the room (look around) - find a place to situate yourself (maybe near someone who is talkative or likes to include other in conversation). This shows you are interested. Their is nothing wrong with not talking too much right off the bat. Sometimes its refreshing to have a conversation with someone who isn't overly talkative, aggressive, or showing-off. Most of all "look" as though you are ready & willing to engage in a conversation with someone. If you come across cocky, 'know-it-all' that can be an immediate turn-off. Usually then the person just feels embarrassed or worst thinks they are boring/uninteresting. Body language is key for shy people -- because they express themselves mostly through body language before anything else. Good luck shy guy!