Shy guys always lose, they have to become extrovert?

[itswhatever]

Is it true shy guys always lose? Girls think shy guys are cute and mysterious but out-going guys win.

A lot of people say to be yourself and stay true if you want a partner for you, but that's not always the case.

Shy people get no love, just because they're shy, I mean is it true people aren't interested in shy/quiet people? They're just "too mysterious/quiet/confusing".

Me being an shy guy, I know how it feels. Girls seem to be frustrated with guys like me because they don't know what we're feeling because we're hard to read or know if we like them or not.

I mean I guess it's vice versa with guys and shy girls, personally I like shy girls sometimes even more than those other out-going party girls, it's just no one knows if they like you or not.

So it must be true introverts have to become out-going, the thing with me is I'm only shy around girls I like or beautiful girls because when an pretty girl rejects you or just brushes you off it's the worst, I can't come to bring the confidence to talk to her.(I can but I can't you know? :S) Also, because I don't have much to talk about D:, my life is boring. I like dancing and meeting new people but my dad doesn't let me go anywhere, I'm athletic but coaches don't even know who I am, I'm nice and polite but people take advantage of it. Is it's best if I just go back to being extrovert like I was in the good ol days.

I give advice better than I take it so I'm asking you guys/girls for help.

[freakyzeaky]

I am shy, but even I know to get over or at least get used to shyness is to force yourself into awkward situations. You will fail and fail hard. But it takes babysteps. You have to crawl before you can walk, walk before you can run, run before you can go a whole marathon. This is especially true for introverts who get drained quickly at mixers and night clubs.

Take every step in the right direction as a success. Have a glass half full mentality. Stay positive. Stay calm and find inner peace. That aura is attractive, even if you can't seal the deal just yet.

So what you didn't talk to anyone at the club? You got the balls to come out.

Next time... so what if you only held a convo with the bartender? Now you know his name and gave him a big tip. He will remember you next time. He sees you are shy, but maybe he can appreciate you still working on it. It is a journey! Embrace it!

Next time... so what if you didn't dance? Two girls bumped into you and you introduced yourself. There were some awkward silences, but they showed signs of interest and kept coming back to talk to you! You didn't get a phone #, but that is okay to. No reason to try and force things...

Women will complain and ask why some guys just stand around or just drink...

I ask have you ever considered that they are just shy guys in training?

It takes time and gradual progress to be proficient in any skill, socializing is no different. The same goes for dancing, yoga, playing a sport, painting, cooking... anything. There is always a time where you are going to suck it up.

That is growth! I can feel it! You can too!

[bapify2]

Shyness and introversion is not the same thing. You're an extraverted shy person, not an introverted person.

[Anonymous]

No I think you should stay true to who you really are..an outgoing girl might go for u...I'm shy and guys lose interest in talking to me even after awhile esp if they're outgoing but quiet guys stick around ;)

I use to not be attracted to shy quiet guys but I'm starting to and ya its hard to tell if they're even interested in talking to me,I'm shy already and usually wait for the guy to talk to me..

Waiting is getting me no where but I'm to scared to talk to guys 1st esp if they're actractive caz I feel they might ignore me but surprisingly most don't and I should know that because they're like me-shy at first but after a while they open up..

But since pretty much all guys I'm attracted to are taken I usually don't even bother trying.

Maybe take your own advice? And good luck

[notluckywithlove]

If it was as easy as you're making it sound to go from introverted to extroverted then I wish I'd learned that years ago, and I sorta disagree shy girls actually tend to get noticed more then shy guys simply because most women like the men to ask them out...talk to them first..pretty much be the leader..where as a shy girl its found cute and guys tend to enjoy the shy factor as long as it's not overwelming. I'd have to say if you're not happy being shy then work tword being less so, but don't change just because it seems like you have to..change because it's something that you really want to do.

https://www.YouTube.com/watch?v=pXu8slfJK0w

[toriaenator]

e. my boyfriend I've been with for ten months is shy and I find it cute, because I'm outgoing we complete each other <3 don't worry there are plenty of girls out there who will love you for who you are. if you work on confidence though, ull meet more of those girls :)

[Fashii]

I personally don't like controlling, pushy jerks. I like the more quiet, nice, shy, intelligent, guy. They respect us women and don't treat us like trash... That's my opinion.

[busterhimen]

too bad there aren't more girls like you

[DogsRCute]

^^^ I agree! I'm like you! I'm crushing on a shy guy right now and we are going on our first date next week. However, I'm also shy until I'm comfortable.

[busterhimen]

@DogsRCute Good luck. hope it turns out well

[DogsRCute]

@busterhimen Thank you so much! Let me me know if you have any tips on helping out a shy guy so he can be more comfortable!

[LesyMonet]

I'm into a shy guy right now and have been since 7 grade and I'm a senior in high school lmfao and I'm just now trying to get him to warm up to me... I'm very outgoing and like to be straight forward. I'm also one of those girls that can talk for hours but the most randomest shit so Im trying to be very careful on how I will approach him. So I mean like shy guys don't all ways lose but you also need to work on opening up to us. Look at this way I'll do my part if you do yours

[Apple2eat7]

well I wish I could give you advice but I'm in the same boat ! I am so attracted to shy guys maybe because I am the opposite, but it still can be very challenging. your going to have to take a little bit more of a risk when it comes to liking a girl. especally if that girl likes you to and doesn't know how to approach or talk to you. just send me a message and I can do my best to help yuo out

[hannaej7]

being a shy guy, anyway u would want to interpret my shy guy problem? I don't know if i hurt a shy guy but its cuz shy girls are too nervous to talk to guys like you.

[MilaPohstro]

True sometimes not for me.

I would much rather date a shy guy than an obnoxiously loud guy.

[SarahsSummer]

TLDR but if a shy guy is too shy to make a move then of course he’ll lose out.

[bapify2]

Lol dude you're not an introvert, you're a shy extrovert. Don't confuse shyness with introversion, you give us a bad name.

[Anonymous]

notlucky is right

Consider a mans fortunes if he never asks a woman out. He will die a virgin

[Shyartist]

Yeah, we always lose. I speak from experience.

[Anonymous]

yea they get treated like shit