Does your partner have a right to continue to ask you to do things for them, that they'd never or refuse to do themselves?

[Anonymous]

I'm talking anything from household chores to what you do in the sheets...

[Paulx]

It's a bit vague to be fair, but women ask men to do things they can't/don't want to regularly.

So yes it's fair but it depends on what's being asked.

I'd recommend people look into "the 5 love languages" it basically says there are 5 ways people feel loved meaningfully.

Many people feel loved through physical attention (I'm a 10/10 here) some feel loved from gifts (I'm a 2/10 here) and everyone falls in these 5 categories differently.

So while I'm not saying do things that you are not comfortable with sexually just understand that man or woman may only truly feel loved by physical attention.

They are

Acts of service
Receiving gifts
Quality time
Words of affirmation
Physical touch

We don't all "feel loved" the same and I'd highly recommend everyone with a someone talk through thier preferences.

And keep in mind you might be U knowingly making the other person feel like it's a loveless relationship.

[MrOracle]

I've never known a girl who maintained her car, built (or significantly repaired) a fence, did plumbing or electrical work, or did major household repairs. Most women I know have never mowed a lawn or changed a tire or dug a ditch. None of them have any trouble asking their man to do these things, and fully expect their man to get them done. For the ones who don't have a man, they will pay some other man to do these jobs, rather than doing them themselves, so ultimately, these jobs are always put on the shoulders of a man. I'm not saying that there are not ANY women who do these things, just that they are very much the rare exception to the rule.

So, yeah, if women are going to ask men to do jobs they wouldn't do, then they need to be okay being asked to do things that men won't do. You can't have it both ways.

[jazzyjic78]

I see it like this not 60/40, not 20/80, not 70/30 but 50/50 love. Baby it's Equal opportunity around here. Team work makes the dream work babe! You got to give some to get some. In the sheets if he wants head, so do I it's called 69 or we can be classy with it... hello

If I'm already cooking and cleaning up in the kitchen and I have a few dishes left over, yes baby wash the dishes and take out the trash, stuff like that turns women on when a man helps out around the house, end up meeting whole another chick inside your chic... He'll be like man I'm gonna start helping out and being fair more often.

My girl doing things to me she ain't never done before 😭.

[Bethany22]

For stuff like blow jobs, I think that men who find excuses to not give their women blow jobs but they insist on getting blow jobs, that definitely is ridiculous. Other than that, I agree with @MrOracle

[AviatorTom]

My SO asks me to do things all the time. Then she complains that I don't do it the way she would do it. 🙄

[JacobJordan]

Wife response: absolutely I ask my husband (account creator) to keep me safe something I can not do for him. I also ask him to carry stuff that I could never carry. To do work I could never do. That is the point of a relationship we compliment each other. I can do things he can't and he can do things I can't. If people only limited themselves to things both can do humanity would die because only women can birth children and only men can impregnate a woman.

[HighValue]

You mean like a woman contributing an equal amount of work, such as 40 + hours per week? (If it is a job, unless she contributes 50% to the bills, those hours don't count because they aren't benefiting her mate).

[slatyb]

A right? I wouldn't use that word. They can ask. You can refuse.

[CriticalCatDad123]

Well men have to put up with women that’s far worse than cleaning, working, taking care of kids and having sex combined. Not that a woman would know. Women give men headaches constantly.

[TommyMountainFigure]

I don't have a problem being asked anything. Id doesn't automatically mean I'll do it!

[boobliker]

you can ask for anything but it's down to the asked if they want to do it!

[Twalli]

I cook and wash dishes. She washes clothes and cleans. Divide and conquer.

[adam6402]

Who works and brings income?

[Twalli]

@adam6402 mostly me. She's in disability, soif she works too long she loses it

[dustybiker2]

Sounds like you are living with a man baby.

[MrOracle]

Before we can know that, let's hear HIS list of things she asks him to do that she doesn't do. Maybe he IS a man baby, but maybe he does plenty for her and expects her to do her share.

If you asked my girlfriend if she was willing to swap chore lists with me for a week, she would call you crazy and say "not a chance."

[dustybiker2]

"That they'd never or refuse to do themselves."

= man baby.

That isn't behavior from a rational mature adult

[MrOracle]

By that reasoning, you are calling nearly all women irrational and immature, because the vast majority of women refuse to do "men's work."

[dustybiker2]

It sounds like you are perhaps attempting to explain away your own similar behavior, I'd wild guess out of guilt. If you had stayed quiet gag wouldn't have known..
Get off my opinion.

[D_Bone_Steak]

@Buttbanger We have a situation here

[ButtBanger]

Why ask a partner when you can surprise them with a sensual assault?

[Iron_Man]

It’s OK to help them out

[elizamichale1]

I don't think so