Why is my shy guy ignoring me? I feel miserable.

[coolkilljoy16]

I'm head over heels for this shy guy and I'm a shy girl. We're both in high school and I've never felt this attracted to someone before. I'm 17 and I've never kissed or been kissed I've never had a boyfriend or been on a date. I want to know who he is and become lost in his grace. I'm an untouchable Because I have trouble letting people in and my friends say I'm gorgeous enough to be a model and that I'm super skinny with a big heart and lots to give. I think we are kinda in tune with each other Because we wear the same colors on the exact same days many days in a row. Anyway he used to stare at me from across the room (I did it too) but he stopped. Now whenever I walk into the room he stares longer than if he islooking to see who was entering the room. He doesn't know that I see him. He completely ignores me and walks around and quietly talks to his friends. I always initiate conversation and when I do he seems closed off and like he doesn't want to talk to me. He rarely looks me in the eyes and looks down a lot. I'll ask him open ended questions and he will answer them but won't carry on the conversation any farther than asking me how my weekend went after I asked him how his went. He looKs down when he doesn't know what to say. My friend who's known him for 8 years thinks we'd be perfect together. Also do our names go good together? My name is Hannah and his name is Ryan. Why is he doing this? What do I do?

[L_M385]

First up, chill down and take a deep breath, because just by reading this I got the feeling that you're stressed out like hell over this crush...

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Calm? OK, let's continue:

You're dealing with a shy boy. It's not really his way to talk a lot to "strangers" even though he may like them. I, for instance, am one myself. I had a crush on a very beautiful girl in my class for 2 years(!) and never told her. She talked to me several times but it ended the same way as you are describing. Mostly, gorgeous girls can be quiet intimidating to a guy and make them very nervous, hence the shy reaction. And the point with not looking in the eyes and looking down a lot comes down to the same thing: Shyness. Being scared to look someone in the eye in fear of rejection, EVEN though they just started talking to you (which they wouldn't if they'd reject you). Things like that. It's a weird thing, because it just takes control over you sometimes, though you'd (I'd) wish it were different.

And as a final note on what to do: Take initiative! Keep talking to him, but don't pressure him, don't make him feel uncomfortable. And ask him out maybe? That should get his attention. And let that friend of yours put in a good word with him. ;)

[Anonymous]

You said he's shy. From what you have here, he could very well be interested in you. That's the problem with shy people. They are hard to read and may not know how to get the ball rolling.

[psimage1]

he sounds shy to me. I ignored all the hot girls becasue I always thought they were too good for me so you probably are really intimitating.

[toouglytobeloved]

maybe he discovered what girls are all about and wants etc and gets turned off by it.