Shy guy is ignoring me. Why? Is he mad, not interested or too shy?

[Anonymous]

There is this guy that I've known for a while. I have always had difficulty in talking to him as he is very shy but that has never seemed to bother me until recently. He seems very nervous when I approach him, he is staring into the floor and his cheeks turn red. He cannot maintain the conversation and he fidgets a lot. He stares from afar, but never approaches me first. So far - all signs the shy guy might be interested. But when I try to text him, he only responds if he sees the message right away. If not, he doesn't. And I have told him how much I hate that, but I cannot get an explanation out of him, it's like he doesn't know what to say (when the conversation gets personal, he is always like that.. this is a bad sign, right?) Should I ask him if there is something wrong? Is he jealous or what? It was last week when he saw me talking to another guy for a while, but that guy is just a friend and I doubt that he was jealous. But the shy guy has been acting weirder and weirder. He ignores me when he is with his friends and he doesn't smile when he says hi to me (I don't smile either, it just kills me to see his straight face with his mouth slightly opened). I feel so hurt, I cannot understand him. Why does he ignore my texts? I thought that shy people act more naturally when they aren't facing the other person. Can you please tell me what's going on? Is he a very very shy person or just not interested in me at all?

[Scoopie]

Shy people are sometimes hard to understand. I had it with shy girls, and the signs are sometimes really difficult to read. Sometimes I would think they like me even when that's not the case, because they are not just shy towards me but to everyone in general. And 'normal' girls are for example only shy with the guy they like. I say 'normal' because by that I mean 'not shy', so if someone's shy doesn't mean you're not normal.

The same goes for guys. Try to see how he behaves with other people, especially other girls. Maybe you'll notice him behave completely normal with other people. Or perhaps you'll notice he's only shy with girls. If he's shy, you should try to make him realize there's no reason for him to be shy, without telling him it directly. Try to figure out what he likes to talk about, and discuss those topics and it will probably open him up.

Example: I am shy with basically every really good looking (hot) girl, even though I'm not necessarily that interested in her. Most of them seem unapproachable to me, but some of those (even if they seemed unapproachable at first) have me change my mind about the because of their behavior; they are down to earth and easy to talk to. Then all of a sudden I stop being shy to them and act 'normal', and become myself again.

[OptimusPrime2017]

I used to be that way and I still am to this day although I'm not as shy right now. And I don't feel shy around all girls but the ones I find cute, I tend to avoid them and sometimes stare at them but when caught, I look away. And every other girl, I portray myself to the school as brooding and angry to keep then at an arms distance. Sure that sounds mean, but it's just how I act these days. Anyways, from personal experience, two years ago, sometimes, I stare at my crush when she isn't looking. Sometimes when caught, I blush and avert my gaze elsewhere. And despite that, I did feel lucky that even if I was shy, she accepted my proposal that since it was me who asked her out and not the other way around. So yeah, he could like you, but he might be shy to tell you and thought he wouldn't stand a chance with you when he saw you talking to another guy. Another reason for why he's acting that way could be that he doesn't want to come on too strong. So try to be a bit gentle and encouraging.

[zaree]

i think he like you if he doing all of the signsthat show he is interested but when he saw you with another guy he feel like he ain't worthy of you or that he can't compete with the guy you was talking to. maybe you should assure him that you are interested in him and would like to get to know him.

[abccba]

He's most likely really shy and when he saw you talking to the other guy may have thought he doesn't stand a chance with you.

[Anonymous]

Sounds a bit like me. I can get very shy around women I really like, for I am nervous of what I would say. Seems like he is mad for he is to shy to tell you how he feels. Try asking him to hang around with you, or ask him if he wants to go to the cinema etc. also he could have lost your number and is to shy to tell you

[Anonymous]

He's probably a really shy person