I'm a guy, and I used to be EXTREMELY shy. I look back in hindsight and think of the women I could have had if I'd just said something to them! Ugh! So frustrating to remember. My buddy was the opposite. He ended up fucking 3 different women I was wanting to check out. Dude, take it from me. No offense intended. Grow a back bone and talk to her / them. I didn't until later in life. Now I'm making up for lost time. I'm divorced now and looking to have some fun. I'm not shy at all now. I don't have time to be shy.
To answer your question, it's generally not a turn off, it's just they don't notice you noticing them so they just carry on their merry way. Don't let that happen!
Here's the thing: Girls like most type of Shy, Nervous, or Wired guys as long as they take the first step to initiate the conversation. Just be open about it. Feel free to behave shy or nervous in front of her as long as you have the courage to walk up to her and start up a conversation.
A way of gauging whether she's interested or not would be to see whether she's cutting the conversation short, or helping it keep going. If a girl is interested in you, she will help you out. But you've got to be willing to take the first step yourself in order to receive that help.
I'm a little shy so I know how nerve wracking it is to approach someone of the opposite sex. Any guy can be attractive to a girl even if they're shy. The thing is you just have to find the right girl who doesn't mind approaching you first. For me and most girls - I think the like the man seeking them out first. It's really a compliment when a guy comes up to you and starts the initial conversation or texts first, etc. Women really love to have their day made like by something such as a small compliment.
It's not exactly a turnoff but considering very few girls approach, you'll have to settle with what you get.
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If you're shy, you're not very likely to be noticed by girls who aren't shy themselves. Most of the time, the girl does want the guy to make the first move, since they want to be treated like princesses, to be led. You can be quiet, but in my experience, you can't be shy.
from my experience as an former shy guy
lemme tell you, girls won't approach you, they will only talk to you when they u getting picked on or when they "have" to
u must initiate man, many girls want a dominant confident guy
theyll only thinks its cute (ur shyness) when u do try to approach them and show them that u really are fun to hang out with
Back in school, I was kinda shy and there was a girl I liked. I took little steps (smiles, little compliments) and see if she would follow up and I would continue with more little moves.
It worked for me, we got together until she had to switch schools since she was a foreign exchange student and had to go back.
Not to most girls you gotta put yourself out there.
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