What kind of girl does shy guys like?

[Anonymous]

I am a bold extrovert girl falling hard for a shy guy but he avoids eye contact with me, want to know what kind of girls do shy guys approach?

[serious]

Well shy guys won't really have high standards and won't know very clearly as to what kind of woman is likeable to them.

I think they will consider themselves lucky if a good looking woman with confidence likes them. Another things is if the guy is genuinely shy then they will almost never approach the woman they may like. In fact would rather wait or expect the woman to make the first move. It is because they genuinely lack confidence.

[Asker]

He never use to pay attention but he came by and stood next to me and tried to listen to my name then i suddenly caught him looking at me when i wasn't paying attention next made intense eye contact with me and didn't even blink, he was wearing a mask so couldn't see face expression

[serious]

I understand but what is you said is something shy guys do.

[Asker]

I really don't know much about shy guys never had a shy friend or dated any shy guy i am more comfortable around loud outgoing people

[Asker]

So like you said it's normal for shy guy to do what he did so it's hard to read if he likes me or not

[serious]

Yes shy guys can be hard to read.

[serious]

You said you are into outgoing people then how come you started liking this shy guy?

[Asker]

Yes he is very opposite of my personality but for the first time in life i am attracted to a shy guy his calmness his stability i am attracted to his personality

[serious]

Yes he is very opposite of my personality but for the first time in life i am attracted to a shy guy his calmness his stability i am attracted to his personality "

Well that is good but just make sure that he is highly compatible with you. Compatibility is very important.

You need to think long term rather than short term happiness.

[Asker]

Yes that's right compatibility is very important

[serious]

Well, good luck.

[Asker]

Thank you so much

[horatiohornblower]

Shy guys don't approach girls. He avoids eye contact. Because he doesn't want to show interest as he thinks it won't be reciprocated.

You can flirt and hint until you're blue in the face. He probably won't get it.

If you want him to ask you out. You're going to be in for a long wait. You'll have to be much more overt. Such as asking him when he's going to ask you out or simply asking him out.

[Asker]

I stare at him try to give him hints i don't know if he understands or he is just pretending that he doesn't, last time when i saw him i caught him looking at me while i wasn't paying attention to him i suddenly turned my head and saw his eyes were already on me and he didn't even look away and gave me intense gaze he never did something like this before

[horatiohornblower]

Your confusion is understandable. His cues and his understanding of them won't be what you expect. He'll likely have strong defenses against showing interest. While when you show interest. He may or may not catch the signals. If he does. It'll be met with self doubt, disbelief you'd like him or shrugged off as friendship.

If you say, "I like your eyes." He'll say thank you and think it was just a kind complement. Probably wonder if there was something more. But self doubt will squash that notion.

If you say, "Let's go to a bar." If he doesn't like bars. He'll probably say no. Not realizing it was an invitation to spend time with you.

You can try smiling. Saying hi, when you see him. Sit close to him. But even very overt signals may not get through to him. He may need you to be direct and lead the way.

Dating will probably be awkward. With silences in conversation. Crowds should be avoided to open him up more. He likely won't make the moves you expect. Such as trying to kiss you, cuddle or get you in bed. That'll come later after you make it plain that each is wanted and acceptable by words and actions. If he's a stranger to affection. He may tense up when kissed or held. Until he gets comfortable.

[horatiohornblower]

Continued...

So, you can try being more forward. If he seems to accept your presence. Adjusts his clothes. Frequently glances at you. I'd say he's interested. You might even get your intent through to him. But if it doesn't seem to work after a couple weeks. Get more direct with something like I really like you or I want you to take me out. Just get less and less subtle until you conclude you have to ask him for a date, point blank.

Maybe tell his friends to clue him in that you like him.

While it all seems difficult and odd. Well it is. Shy guys will also make steady partners. They won't make grand romantic gestures. But they'll listen. Gestures from them may be thoughtful gifts or driving three hours to buy something you mentioned liking.

This article helps explain what to expect pretty well.
www.momjunction.com/.../

[Asker]

Thank you so much i think i have to be more direct with I'll keep what you said in mind

[horatiohornblower]

Good luck!

[Asker]

Thank you so much

[Anonymous]

It depends on the shy guy.
1) deep down alpha
He is shy but he doesn’t want to be. So he will need to find someone who is more shy than him so that he will be in control.
2) indifferent
He is shy and he doesn’t need to prove anything. So he is ok with you being shy or extrovert it doesn’t matter.
3) wants to be outgoing but can’t
this type will want an extrovert girl

[Asker]

He is definitely shy doesn't talk to anyone much doesn't make eye contact to other people seems lost on his own world definitely doesn't give vibe of bad guy

[Joeshamo]

I’m shy. And I mainly like women like you. The women Who are extroverted I like a lot; Cause It kind of brings balance in my life. I’ve someone to speak up for me when I’m too shy to. It’s like the yin to my yang.

[Asker]

Why would a shy guy ignore looking at a beautiful girl like deliberately avoid making eye contact with her but then she catches him looking at her when she wasn't looking at him

[jailbreak]

Shy guys like any type of girls, they're just shy and nervous and dont wanna ruin shit. be who u r and maybe u can get him to warm up to u if he's interested. dont change yourself

[Asker]

I am really confused because last when i saw him i caught him looking at me when i wasn't paying attention and suddenly i turned towards him and found his eyes were already on me and he didn't even look away next he gave me intense stare and locked eyes with me

[jailbreak]

Yeah thats showing he more than likely likes you as well and is trying to show some confidence to you. I had a similar situation today at work with a girl i like, we lock eyes sometimes for like 5 sec no smile whatsoever, but weve also kissed and felt each other, no sex tho