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So freshman year I had dated a guy and we went out for almost six months. There was only one or two kisses in the entire relationship so it can't be classified as a relationship just for sexual things. Anyways I broke up with him and then a month later I get a phone call. It was a sexual phone call about how he wanted to have sex with me. I felt so dirty and slutty and awful from that call. Add insult to injury I got this call at 2am on my birthday and I was not awake so it was a voicemail that I had to listen to and then share with my parents. My dad went over played the voicemail for my ex's dad. It was promised that no one else would ever find out about it. It was mostly his friends and he was laughing in the background and he said some sexual things. My current bf is friends with my ex who made the call. My ex told my current bf about the call in front of him and two other friends. I was fine that they knew it didn't bother me. Until I was told that my ex thought I overreacted after I said my parents and I both forgave the call. I told my current bf about the call because when me , my bf, my ex and a few other friends hung out it was kinda awkward. My current bf knew how much it hurt me and that I had cried when I had to tell him. My current bf didn't say anything to stop my ex from talking about it or at all defend me. I thought he knew that my ex had spoken in the call not just laughed but didn't and that's the reason he says he didn't respond. I expected him to take my side and he says he can't take either side and will only be neutral. The reason why is he can't listen to the voicemail so he doesn't know who is telling the truth. I feel that he should take my side or at least stop his friend my ex /defend me and he says he's not a part of it. It's between me and my ex but I feel that my bf should believe me. So after reading all of that do you think my bf should be allowed to remain neutral.

So my boyfriend of three years and I are having a baby. We were engaged, but were having some problems, so we put off the wedding. We're technically not together right now, but we're trying to work things out. My former college roommate (whom I never stayed with because I was living with my boyfriend) and my boyfriend never liked each other. One night, he got bored and asked her if she wanted to hang out. This was about two years ago. After I told her about me being pregnant, she told me that they had slept together that night. She said that they went back to her room, got drunk, and slept together and he texted her and told her not to tell me. She had also been drinking at a friend's apartment earlier that night. He, however, told me that they absolutely did not sleep together and that they just drank in a gazebo at the college, which is what everyone does at that college. I'm not 100 percent sure who to believe, though, because they never liked each other since the night they met because she didn't like him taking my time and attention away from her. In addition, she's not really attractive and he's constantly (since the first night or two after first meeting her) talked about how disgusting he found her. He was also having problems with his teeth around that time, which she still doesn't know about, and it would have been very noticeable because it was a crown that was falling out in the very front. She also said she doesn't remember much about that night, but knows what happened. However, I don't really know why she would lie about it because we have hardly talked in two years. She said she talked to some of her friends about the situation right after it happened. I saw where she had messaged him on Facebook and he told her not to message him on there because I could see it and he had deleted all texts from her. He said he didn't want me to know he was drinking because I disapproved. I just wanted to know who's telling the truth now?