Is my boyfriend trying to hide me?

[fashionlover08]

I'm not friends with boyfriend on Facebook but we have both changed our status to "in a relationship". I tried to friend him on there but he said something is wrong with his FB and it won't let him friend me... and I don't have Instagram but I know his username and I checked out his profile (public) he does and always posts "I want a relationship one day" kinda posts and no posts about me. We have met each other's friends and family, introduced as "his girl" and "my boyfriend". We see each other 1-3 times a week, often going out with his friends/my friends/family/ He does talk about falling for me and wanting a future with me. But because of his social media habits... I'm a bit taken back. Also, his phone is ALWAYS beeping with texts. He says he just has a lot of friends, and even "girl friends" which I'm ok with as long as he's telling me the truth (which I've asked him about and since left it alone). Also, note is he has a lot of friends out of state, as he just moved to our current state a few months ago. He has mentioned telling his family back home about me and wanting me to meet them. But his social media/texting habits have me contemplating what is really going on... What do you think?

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Side note: his Instagram also includes many pics like "lovely day at the beach" when he's at work NOT at the beach, and many check ins at places he's not even at. Sorta fake if u ask me. What's THAT about?

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Would it be a good idea to create an Instagram account and ask him for his name on there, even though I already know it?

[citroen]

Guys dont let you meet their family and friends if they not all that into you, if he kept you secret from family etc i would question it but you have best thing to do is keep a check on his fb coz if he befriends new friends it will show but if nomore friends get added he may be telling the truth, ehen i first staryed dating this lad i kept him a secret for short time, not coz i was up to anything but coz i wanted to make sure the relationship was going somewhere, i didn't want the embarrassement of telling family etc that it didn't work out, why dont you ask him why he hasn't change his relationship status if he's says he summit wrong with his fb offer to see if you can try for him if he won't let u then id question his motive

[fashionlover08]

he has changed his FB status to "in a relationship" but since we aren't friends he can't put my name there.

[Sixtus64]

Although many people seem to live or die by social media, it isn't "really real." What is real is what happens between the two of you, your friends and family when you are together in real life, and that all looks positive. He may not know how to break the news of the two of you to all those friends back in his home state. He is still transitioning to a new place and a new life with you. Sounds like he is, on some level, trying to lead two lives. It is time for the talk, e. g., I feel left out of your life when I a not included in your FB. I wonder where I stand with you when you leave the relationship status open. Tell him how you feel, see how he responds. I have no idea why someone would post fake Instagram pics.

[madhatters4]

something seems it would seem there is someone or some people he doesn't want you to know about or them to know about you. the fact that he writes stuff like ""I want a relationship one day" despite being in a relationship is one of the biggest red flags you'll find. I think you should ask him about posts like those... and the fb doesn't let him accept you or vice versa is an incredibly huge stinky pile b. s.

[fashionlover08]

Agreed! It's as if he's leading a double life. real in person but fake on social media? See also my update: What is going onnnnn?

[madhatters4]

I think you should probably confront him on all this stuff. it sounds like, as you said, he is living a double life and trying to create an image or entirely different personality to people on his social network. to me that would be a no go for a relationship. I just couldn't be with someone who wasn't being themselves 100% of the time.

[BertMacklinFBI]

something is wrong with his FB and it won't let him friend you? LOL!

as funny as that sounds don't let social media get to your head. use what is happening in reality as facts. some guys are just srsly weird.

[fashionlover08]

The reality is definitely, but this social media BS is confusing the hell outta me.

[fashionlover08]

*is definitely real

[BertMacklinFBI]

social media is stupid because it makes people think about the worst shit. no offense. and if he lies about his instagram posts like in your updates then I got a feeling that its just him and the relationship between you two is totally fine. its just what he does it seems like.

[fashionlover08]

What do you mean "that its just him and the relationship between you two is totally fine. its just what he does it seems like. @theopinionowner

[BertMacklinFBI]

based off everything you typed so far he just sounds like a weird guy to me so I can't properly judge his actions which leads me to believe that is just his personality.

[Donne_Love]

If SN satisfaction you are looking for that won't make a title solid, but he you are looking for PSA and he refuses or keeps the dating to a you and him situation. when you ask for more than maybe yeah.. But I am I single guy

[fashionlover08]

What is SN? He definitely treats me like his girlfriend in public and I've met many of his friends, it's the social media part that I'm confused about...

[Donne_Love]

SN = Social Networks, and yeah if you are hung up on that, you shouldn't like whats an app. or website state have to do with how much a person really cares for the other.

[Crushonyoufornow]

He is a liar