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So my current boyfriend and I dated for 8 months, then broke up for 3 months. During that time I got a new boyfriend and he had a rebound. Yet we got back together.

Since then I told him I wasn’t comfortable with him being close to the girl he slept with while we were broken up because she wanted a relationship from him when he did not, she blocked me on all social media and she just shit talks me to anyone who’d listen. While they had their thing, she also demanded he never speak to me and tried to force him to delete pictures of me and throw my stuff away. He kept everything, but still didn’t speak to me until he went back home and was away from her. I’ve never met the girl but I think it’s childish she hates me just because I’m dating my boyfriend. He stopped talking to her and focused on me.

My boyfriend said he liked her as a person and felt like a dick for what happened with her, so he eventually wanted to talk to her again. I told him to give us time because our relationship is still kind of rocky and needs stability and this would cause issues. Two days ago, I brought up again how the idea of them being close friends makes me uncomfortable and disrespected. Then he admits that he’s been talking to her on occasion for two weeks now and sometimes they even FaceTime. I was heartbroken. I asked him maybe 6 days ago if they were talking and he lied. He’s been hiding the truth from me this whole time while I thought things were great. He lied to me so easily.

He says he didn’t want to upset me by telling me they were talking again and was trying to “protect” me. He says he is very sorry and would never do it again. He always avoids conflict and let’s it get out of hand.

Ultimately, I feel betrayed, I don’t trust him like I used to and I feel like she is more important to him than I am. Should I break up with him or not?

I’ve been working for months to get the attention of this guy “C”. Like we were friendly but I’ve been wanting him to flirt and admit he likes me too. This week he finally confesses that he does like me but is trying to fight it off due to distance. Next thing you, know 4 other dudes pop up the day after. Like what are the chances and right before the new year. I brushed off the majority because they consisted of major dealbreakers. But i met this guy “K” who is literally another C but noticed me romantically immediately. The connection was nearly 10 times stronger and he's closer in distance. But i like that C and I worked up a friendship first. Its something I needed to do in past relationships that I did not. K told me to get to know them both but I know C would be totally against this because he’s already showing signs of jealousy when it comes to other men approaching me. Do I get to know K in secret or do i tell C? Plus K just got out of a relationship and claims he's not rebounding. I somewhat believe he isn't because neither was i. But I dont know what to do because I dont want to go into 2020 in another love triangle