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Forgiveness is one of the most powerful of things. But it is oh so not easy to come to grips with. Where does one draw the strength from to forgive? How does it feel to forgive, or not to forgive?

People can hurt each other easily, for selfish reasons and their own wounds. Like:
MotherF@#er raped you in college, and you lost 15 years of your life.
Your boss totally F'd you... on purpose (they do that)! You lose... job, retirement, house, maybe family.
The guy/girl you loved... they hurt you terribly, totally F'd your life! F'in hell man!
The Govt official screwed you bad and laughed about it on the news, and you lost your business! You went bankrupt!
In essence, these are all corruptions of power, selfishness, and lack of love! Ok!!!

Oh but that Universe... by twist of fate years later, you have power over their offspring! OOOOO
Maybe you are the Sargent in the Army commanding them, and you have to pick someone for the dangerous front position? Tempting..
Or you are the boss, and you can make this subordinate suffer! No consequences, at least earlth
Or you see them in a dangerous place... like trapped in a car on side of the road, ready to catch fire. They are gonna die, unless you interject to help call for help... else they die! Nobody would know though if you drive on...

Dig deep... how do you respond? You're options:

A) F! ck em over, that's life bi#ch! (Explain how this would feel). Is there a better way?
B) Ignore your feelings.
C) Forgive: Engage with them, explain what happened that they deeply hurt you, and that you will treat them the same as anyone else. Explain how you'd feel and where you get the strength.
D) Other

I don't believe in fate, what about you?

I met my fiance when we were going together on a vacation. We were all part of a martial arts group except her. She was convinced to go by her friend that also went. We talked a few times and her birthday was that week. I gave her a kiss of happy birthday on her forehead. No idea why! She made a bright smile in response and we looked at each other for a few seconds awkwardly in silence after. When we returned she said goodbye to me also by kissing me in the forehead. It was so sweet.

Anyway past a few weeks and we are invited to a birthday dinner hosted by a girl that also went on that vacation. In my country we don’t have am or pm. The dinner was set for 19h aka 7pm. So when I look at the time and see 17h aka 5 pm for some reason for me the “7” meant it was time to go. Ya I can be distracted sometimes. When I realized my mistake I was alone in the city with nothing to do. I picked up my phone and asked if anyone was already nearby. Guess who was… She was supposed to leave class at 6pm, but her teacher wanted to finish class earlier so she was free to join me. We sat down in the main street talking. Just talking and learning more about each other for almost two hours. Something clicked there. I didn’t love her already by any means, but I wanted to spend more time with her. After that night we had a couple of dates and eventually got where we are today. We are going to get married this year.

If that combination of events, our friend dragging her to a vacation where she didn’t knew anyone, me confusing the time and her leaving class earlier, we wouldn’t be here. On the other hand I chose to kiss her forehead, I wanted to go on date after that encounter, she didn’t had to come to me so early and even after she saw me drunk that night she still accepted my invitation for a date.

I personally don't believe in fate. To believe in coincidences it’s much more logical. That life gives a chance and we have to take it. What do you think?