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Me and my boyfriend was arguing last night
I admit.. it is partly my fault
I've been accusing him of cheating and trying to attract other girls coz he gyms a lot and take pictures at the gym
I know he's just training and he's not talking to other girls like that but I've been cheated on so i think every guy would cheat
He knows about my trust issues because of my past relationships and my insecurities
We had a fight about this last night
And then he was sooo mad at me and said:
"You know what? Im gonna tell u the truth. I dont see you as wife material yet. you're just my girlfriend. I want to see you as a wife material but you need to fix yourself. You dont trust me and you're so insecure. We have been together for over 1 year. You would know if im doing something bad behind your back"
What the f?
He doesn't see me as wife material?
I got so upset when he said this to me 😔😔
But he does the following things:
- he's affectionate in public and private
- he likes to see me more than once a week
- he calls me everyday or night before we go sleep
- he puts pictures of us on his facebook and instagram and putting captions saying that "he loves me" and that im his "other half"
- he wants to go on vacation with me
- im the only girl out of all his exes that met his parents
- he says he loves me everyday
Etc etc
How could he say that he doesn't see me as wife material? :(
That shit hurts

First off me and my boyfriend been together for 1 year and 2 months
This is both our longest relationship
My boyfriend's first relationship was 4 years ago and was with this girl he works with - she was his first girlfriend and first girl he had sex with
They dated for 6 months until she left him for another guy
3 years later, he got into another relationship with this other girl and dated for 4 months
They broke up coz she was using him for money
Then 2 months later, he met me and we started dating
During our relationship, I go out a lot with my group of friends to clubbing, dinner, concert, house parties, etc
I've never invited him because he doesn't like clubbing or partying or loud music
Whenever I told him, im going.. he will say "okay, have fun"
I asked him "do you not care if i go clubbing and all?"
He has told me "nah you can go. I trust you. You know what? you're the only girl I've dated that I trust. The other girls I've dated, when they go out, I always have this question in the back of my mind "what are they doing?" Or "are they cheating on me?".. but when it comes to you, I never questioned your intentions. I know you will not do anything stupid."
And i asked "how?"
He said "coz we have been together for over a year. I know your personality now"
Does he trust me or dont care?
Does it seem genuine?
How does he go from not trusting the other girls he dated to actually trusting me?
When i do go clubbing, he does make sure he calls me the next morning to see where I am and see if im okay and talk about it and stuff

Me and my boyfriend been together for 1 year and 2 months
My previous relationship was messed up - I was going out with him for 6 months when I caught him with another girl. I found out this girl is his "main chick". They had been dating for 3 years. So this means im the "side chick" so yeah he has been cheating on me this whole fkn time. This ended 3 years ago
So I started having trust issues with men ever since then
I still have trust issues to be honest and I think its affecting me and my current bf's relationship
Lately, everything he does, I have been accusing him of cheating and trying to attract women
For example, he has been training at gym for 8 years and always uploading photos of himself at gym
I know this is his thing and to see his progression but lately I keep thinking that he's training at gym and uploading photos to attract women and trying to get their attention
I was going mental about it and kept nagging him how he's trying to get other girls attention and stuff like that
And he said to me:
"you got freakin issues. You need to get over your trust issues and your past. Im not the same guy you dated that messed around with you. Im a different guy. I have never cheated on you. If i wanted to, I couldve done it ages ago. I wanna be with you. Im trying so hard to be patient but one day Im going to click. If you keep doing this and can't trust me then how is our relationship going to work? I trust you with all my heart and you dont even trust me. You need to see a counsellor or talk to someone close to you. If you keep doing this, its going to ruin our relationship. Please fix yourself. I can't fix it for you. You have to fix this part by yourself. If you can't trust me, then dont be with me. "
Am i right to be upset that he wants me to see a counsellor?
do you guys think i sound crazy? 😔
Does this mean he thinks im crazy?