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So you start dating your best friend who you've had a huge crush on for months - He is caring, shares a similar sense of humour to you, is physically attractive to you, seems to be decently honest & loyal, is understanding when you are anxious/irritated by something rather than being annoyed, reassures you when you need it, and promises on your and his life that you are his one true love and even wants to marry you!

Problem? He doesn't put much effort into the relationship or show much eagerness to see you. After 10 months you have not been on one date together and mainly just hang out in each others houses in one of your rooms all day apart from a few exceptions where you go on a trip with their family or a short trip such as Tesco alone with them. You are growing bored of this. Your mum even keeps saying maybe he's more like a friend.

You fear you are starting to lose interest in him though still like him a bit but things desperately need to be sorted v/soon. You're not sure if he is the right one for you which pains you but you keep feeling uncomfortable about it and your family do not think you have ever been very happy with your boyfriend.

You have spoke to him about it a few times now but only very recently have been firmer with it. He says he will do everything he can to keep you and even gets very upset when he fears losing you, to the point of crying and having "that sinking feeling".

You want to work things out but are worried you may just be pro-longing the break up. He is also currently the only guy you are all that interested in and possibly the only one who is that understanding of your problems.

You see each other twice a week for 9 hours though it used to be just once a week + he has in the past cancelled meeting with excuses like being tired and his leg and back aching a bit from when he went on Alton Towers ride.

What would you do?

Okay, so the phrase is usually cat lover but in all honesty, any animal can be a humans affection. Dogs, snakes, even (eep) spiders.

I hold up my hands. I adore my cat. Far more than I probably should.

My cat was abandoned as a kitten - left out in a bin bag about 5 months old. He was desperately in need of someone to look after him, and I've always been very motherly and been desperate to release these feelings. So we ended up literally mummy and baby. He likes me to hold him like a baby and he falls asleep, we kiss each other's noses, he even sits on his bum and asks to be lifted for cuddles (and he's not small. He weighs 6.5kg which is healthy for his size, confirmed by vets). He's now 4 and a half years old and no sign of becoming more independant.

Thankfully my boyfriend is very understanding and doesn't mind our close bond. I was wondering if you too could cope with this sort of close human - animal bond? Or would you feel it strange or even be jealous of it?