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Valentine's Day is a great day to celebrate love with your long term partner, but what do you do if you just started dating someone the week before Valentine's Day? What if it's your first date?

There are some expectations about a date on Valentine's Day based on customs and traditions. Typically, a guy makes an extra effort to make it a nice date. He sends his girl a dozen red roses with a note that says how much she means to him. He might arrive for the date with a box of fine chocolates as a gift. The girl has gone to extra trouble to make herself look just right for this special occasion. They share a fine meal together and perhaps move on to a lounge for a drink afterwards. If the relationship already includes sex, both the guy and girl probably expect that the night will conclude with the two of them in bed together. If the relationship is relatively new but they are both feeling a physical attraction, this may be the night when they decide to share physical intimacy for he first time.

So what if it's a first date? Or a second date? If I ask the girl out to dinner for Valentine's Day and I go to all this trouble to make her feel special, she may think that I am expecting her to give herself to me physically at the end of the night. I certainly don't want to make a girl feel pressured on that subject. Maybe she will think this is too much, too soon, and I must be desperate of I am trying so hard to impress her. But if I don't ask her out, will she think that I am being cheap or maybe conclude that I don't feel she is worth the effort? Will she feel a bit depressed because she is sitting at home while all of her friends are going out for Valentine's Day?

What should I do? I don't face this dilemma this year because I am living with my girlfriend who I have been dating for the past year. But I have faced this question previously. How would you want to handle this situation?

Most of the selfies are full body and/or with cute expressions. However, she also sometimes include generic captions like "it's a look" or "so exhausted" paired with stickers and emojis. She finds most of my Snaps and texts hilarious, even my original cheesy pickup lines. In person, she makes a lot of unecessary prolonged physical contact, laughs at all of my jokes, teases me back, randomly smiles at me shyly, and all the usual flirting stuff--but perhaps she's just really friendly. Also, she overtly interacts with me when there are less people around, but practically ignores me when a lot of our friends are present.

I had just met her a month ago, but we seem to click pretty well. Part of my attraction towards her is that unlike most of the other girls, she doesn't act too awkward around me or show obvious attraction towards me. I like that she seems to enjoy my personality more than just my body. I really like that she's not an attention seeker and seems down to earth while also being very feminine towards me (such as admiring my physical strength and viewing me as a capable protector).

When I was younger, if I met a girl, I was either immediately attracted to her or it was never going to happen. She did not need to open her mouth and say one word for me to know. I just looked at her and I knew I was physically attracted or I knew I was not physically attracted. Of course, physical attraction is only one part of a relationship and there was much else to discover.

As I got older, I actually dated a woman to whom I did not feel an immediate physical attraction and after dating for a few months, I realized that I was strongly attracted to her. When I looked at her, I realized that most other guys would not consider her to be attractive, but I thought she was cute and I wanted a physical relationship with her. Ultimately, the relationship failed but not because of the physical attraction.

Have you ever dated anyone to whom you did not feel an immediate physical attraction? Did that attraction develop over time?

I’m mostly referring to physical appearance. Us guys obviously admire women’s bodies, we love women’s faces, curves etc because we are considered visual when it comes to attraction. but women don’t seem to admire anything about men, most of the stuff they find “attractive” is mostly based on personality and wealth.

Has it always been like this or is because PC culture has been promoting misandry in recent years. Causing women to see more flaws in men than admirable traits.